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4 mistakes you should never make when hosting for the holidays, according to etiquette experts

21 December 2024 at 04:14
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There are a few mistakes that should be avoided when hosting for the holidays.

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  • Business Insider asked etiquette experts about the mistakes to avoid when hosting for the holidays.
  • It's important to make sure everyone feels welcomed β€” even unexpected guests.
  • Hosts should also ensure there is enough seating for everyone at the party.

Although hosting friends and family for the holidays can be fun, there's no denying that doing so also comes with its fair share of stress. Without proper planning, things can even get chaotic.

To avoid making etiquette mistakes in the process, Business Insider asked two experts to share the top mistakes they see people make when hosting. Here's what they said.

Don't chastise guests for bringing an unexpected plus-one

Diane Gottsman, a national etiquette expert and the owner of the Protocol School of Texas, told BI that hosts should never reprimand a guest for bringing an unexpected plus-one.

If this happens, she said to address the issue later β€” not in front of others.

"You don't want to reprimand the guest or the guest's guest in front of anyone. Later on, you can say, 'Sally, I wasn't expecting a plus one because it kind of put me in an awkward position with other people.' But you can say that privately at another time, not that night," Gottsman said.

Make sure there is enough seating for all guests

A dining table set with Christmas decorations in front of a tree and wreath.
Use your head count to ensure everyone has a place to sit.

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When it comes to seating, it's important to double check your head count and ensure everyone has a place to sit. Gottsman said this should also be done for more casual events like cocktail or dinner parties.

"You want to have enough seating for people," Gottsman said.

Avoid creating a chaotic environment

Etiquette and hosting expert Carla Shellis said another common mistake hosts make is not considering how they want their event or home to feel.

By yelling and scrambling to get things done at the last second, the host can unintentionally leave the space feeling more chaotic than welcoming.

Gottsman shared similar thoughts, telling BI, "When the doorbell rings with your first guest, you should not still be in your hair rollers, or lighting candles, or racing around talking about how busy you are."

To combat a chaotic situation, Shellis likes to play music, light candles, and clean the space before her guests arrive. She also gives herself plenty of time to get everything done so she doesn't have to rush.

Be cautious when serving alcohol

A group of people toasting cheers with Champagne flutes.
Alcohol can sometimes do more harm than good at a party.

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Shellis told BI that serving too much alcohol is an easy way to create unnecessary issues at a party. That's why it's important to ensure everyone is enjoying themselves in moderation.

For instance, Shellis said when people ask her if she has any more wine, she'll say no and redirect them by offering other beverages like iced tea or soda.

"For 30 years, I've been hosting parties, and I'm going to tell you there's nothing that will kill a beautiful environment quicker than somebody that's hammered and acting foolish," Shellis told BI.

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I spent 6 months traveling around Europe. The experience was great, but a few simple things would've made the trip even better.

15 December 2024 at 03:18
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I spent six months traveling around Europe.

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  • I traveled around Europe for six months and realized a few things would've made my trip even better.
  • In the future, I'll prioritize waking up early and splurging on local treats.
  • Next time, I'll also use voice notes to better document my experience.

As an American, exploring countries like France, the UK, the Netherlands, and the Czech Republic for six months was an absolute dream.

However, looking back, there are some things I could have done differently to minimize stressful travel days and make the most of my experience.

Here are five things I'd do differently next time as an American traveling around Europe.

Next time, I'll use my voice notes to document the experience.
An Olympic beach-volleyball stadium in front of the Eiffel Tower on a cloudy day.
I wish I had better documented the highlights of my trip.

Emily Pogue

You might think that because I'm a writer, I'd be pretty good at journaling. Unfortunately, that's not always the case. I typically find myself journaling at the beginning of a trip, but then I drop off as the exhaustion starts to hit.

However, near the end of my trip around Europe, I discovered the beauty of voice notes. Instead of journaling in my room after a long day, I could pull out my phone and record a recap while walking back to my hotel.

This would have been helpful on particularly eventful days, like when I was in Paris attending the Summer Olympics.

The details are what keep memories alive, and on my next trip, I'm excited to document my travels even more precisely.

If I visit Europe again in the summer, I'll account for train delays.
People walking toward one of a few trains in a station.
Many of the trains I took were delayed.

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As an American, I'm in awe of the European rail system. Pay $40 to read on a train for a few hours and end up in another country? You can't beat it.

However, my previous European train experiences have always been in the offseason. Riding the trains in the summer was a whole different experience.

Of the 20+ long-distance trains I rode throughout the summer, almost all were delayed to some degree. To say this made for some headaches is an understatement.

For example, my travel day from Switzerland to Amsterdam went from a simple two-train excursion to a nightmarish six different trains, ultimately adding five hours to an already long travel day.

This happened because my connection was 20 minutes long and my train was 25 minutes late. Next time, I'll try to give myself at least half an hour between trains.

Next time, I'll seek out more concerts and musical festivals.
Silhouettes of fans in a crowd at a concert with their hands in the air.
I'd love to see a concert the next time I'm abroad.

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When I was in England, it was prime music-festival time β€” and the Brits sure know how to host a festival. However, it wasn't until some locals started listing the festivals they were attending that I even started to look into the details.

It turns out Hozier was playing down the street from where I was staying β€” on the day I was leaving. My travel arrangements weren't flexible, so I had to miss out on seeing one of my favorite artists (for a fraction of what his tickets cost in the States).

Next time I head across the pond, I'll be sure to do some research ahead of time about who is playing nearby.

I'll definitely make it a point to eat more local treats on my next trip.
Three pastries with fruit in the middle of each on a clear plate.
Food is a great way to experience a country's culture.

Emily Pogue

Having a considerable sweet tooth, I knew I was in trouble when I was heading to England and France. From Victoria sponge cake and scones to macarons and eclairs, the temptations were everywhere.

And the other countries I visited didn't disappoint in their pastry offerings either.

Although I did indulge in the occasional sweet treat (particularly the kolaches in the Czech Republic), I convinced myself that I didn't need to splurge too often.

Now that I'm back in the States, I'm kicking myself for not sampling more of the local desserts. Food is a vital part of a country's culture, and desserts are a fairly inexpensive way to experience the locals' favorite recipes.

On future trips, I'll wake up early to explore a city while it's quiet.
A few people walking across a bridge in Prague, with statues on each side.
I visited the Charles Bridge early in the morning.

Emily Pogue

I'm not naturally a morning person, and I typically need a specific reason to get up early. On days I didn't have one, I often wouldn't be out and about until 10 or 11 a.m.

However, the morning I left Prague, I woke up before dawn to watch the sunrise on the iconic Charles Bridge. I was used to the bridge being packed with tourists, but at 7 a.m., I had the place to myself.

Although it's not my natural tendency, getting out on the streets in the early morning offers a completely different perspective of a city.

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I visited Scottsdale for the first time in the spring. I made 3 mistakes that I'm still thinking about months later.

5 December 2024 at 02:42
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Business Insider's reporter visited Scottsdale, Arizona, in the spring and made a few mistakes.

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  • I traveled to Scottsdale and Paradise Valley, Arizona, for the first time in April.
  • The trip included neighborhood tours, fine dining, and luxury hotel stays.
  • I made a few mistakes, from booking to packing and planning, that I'll avoid next time I visit.

In April, I took my first trip to Arizona's desert oasis β€” the wealthy enclave of Scottsdale and Paradise Valley, two Phoenix suburbs known for their high-end real estate and travel markets.

During my two-day whirlwind trip, I packed in neighborhood tours, fine-dining experiences, and two luxury hotel stays.

Months later, I'm still thinking about three mistakes I made when booking, packing, and planning the trip, which I'll avoid next time I want to escape to Arizona's millionaire hub.

When planning my itinerary, I didn't realize how far apart some stops were.
A map of the greater Phoenix area has pins over the author's destinations
A map of the greater Phoenix area highlights the author's stops around Scottsdale and Paradise Valley.

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When I mapped out my trip to Scottsdale, I didn't realize how large the town was.

Downtown Scottsdale, Paradise Valley, and Phoenix Sky Harbor International Airport are quite close together β€” 15 minutes or less by car, in my experience. However, I couldn't miss seeing the luxurious neighborhoods and fine dining in North Scottsdale.

When I booked my tours and reservations, I didn't realize North Scottsdale was about a 40-minute cab ride from the hub area.

I ended up traveling up and down Scottsdale multiple times a day. Next time, I'll plan to spend one full day in North Scottsdale to avoid wasting time and money on cabs.

When traveling to Scottsdale in the spring, I should have planned for dry, 90-degree Fahrenheit days.
The author stands on a balcony with pools, palm trees, and palm trees
The author regrets packing dark-colored clothing.

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For my spring trip to Scottsdale, I expected it to be warm, as the area is known to be throughout the year. So, I packed some cooling, quick-dry attire, like the Under Armour polo above, paired with pants made from a similar material.

It was warmer than I anticipated, and this dark navy outfit made me feel like a magnet to the sun.

The outfit was comfortable in the morning and evening, but I would have packed lighter-colored clothing if I had known I'd be battling 90-degree heat in the afternoons.

I also didn't realize that the heat in Scottsdale would feel drastically drier to me compared to the air I'm used to back home in New York.

I thought I could easily walk around all day in Scottsdale. I planned to spend most daylight hours exploring outdoors and walking from neighborhood to neighborhood. But I got dehydrated easily and ran through my 20-ounce plastic water bottle quickly.

Next time I visit Scottsdale in the spring, I'll pack a larger, insulated water bottle and break up outdoor activities in my itinerary with indoor ones to stay cool and hydrated.

Booking just one night in a mega-resort was my biggest regret.
A resort with pools and palm trees in front of a mountain with blue skies in the background
The pool complex at the Phoenician in Scottsdale.

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Since I spent two nights in Scottsdale and Paradise Valley, I booked one night in each town.

I stayed atΒ the Phoenician in Scottsdale, a 600-acre mega-resort with five pools, a three-story spa, and an 18-hole golf course.

I didn't save enough time in my itinerary for hanging out at the hotel.

I spent most of the day out and about, and by the time I got back to the Phoenician, I was too tired to sit down at the award-winning lobby bar or step into one of the pools.

Before I checked out in the morning, I had just enough time to explore the entire property on foot. I watched others play golf, tennis, and pickleball and longed for another night. This ended up being my biggest regret of the trip because I left feeling like I'd missed out.

After my stay, I realized that a mega-resort is worth the price only if I take advantage of all it has to offer. Since my trip was more about exploring Scottsdale than relaxing, there simply wasn't enough downtime to make it worth booking for just one night.

After getting a preview of the Phoenician's amenities, I'd love to stay again for at least two nights and plan to spend many waking hours there.

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I made packing mistakes on an 8-day safari in Tanzania. Here's what I'm glad I brought — and what I'd do differently next time.

1 December 2024 at 05:16
Flowy pants and oversize button-downs became the author's go-to look on safari.
Flowy pants and oversize button-downs became the author's go-to look on safari.

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  • I spent eight days on a safari in Tanzania's Serengeti National Park.
  • I thought packing for the trip involved a strict color palette and rugged outdoor clothes.
  • I'm glad I had items like jackets and binoculars, but I'd do some things differently for future trips.

Packing for a 20-day trip, regardless of location, is a challenge.

Packing for a 20-day trip to three destinations is even harder.

And fitting all your clothes in a soft-sided bag weighing less than 33 pounds feels impossible.

But that was my task for my first trip to East Africa, where I spent eight days on a safari in Tanzania's Serengeti National Park.

I managed to fit it all in a backpacking pack, but not without making a few mistakes. Take a look at what I did right, what mistakes I made, and what I'd pack for future safaris.

I almost skipped packing binoculars because of the added weight. I'm glad I didn't.
Binoculars in the author's lap on safari.
Binoculars in the author's lap on safari.

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My bags weighed 31 pounds the night before my trip. Most of the small-plane bush flights I was about to board had weight restrictions of 33 pounds.

If I wanted any souvenirs, I'd be tight for space. I eyed what I could leave behind and initially considered ditching the pair of binoculars I had packed.

Ultimately, I took out a few pairs of shorts instead, a choice I'm thrilled I made. It's not guaranteed that your safari lodge will have binoculars for guests, but having a pair enhances the entire experience.

Sure, I got close to lions and elephants from my safari vehicle, but a pair of binoculars could showcase details β€” like whisker patterns, bird feathers, and skin textures β€” that I couldn't see from the car.

For future trips, I'll be investing in an even nicer pair β€” and making sure there's enough room in my bag.

Bug spray and sunscreen were a necessity.
Bug spray and toiletries at one of the author's safari lodges.
Bug spray and toiletries at one of the author's safari lodges.

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A few days before my trip, I spoke with Meg van Niekerk to discuss my trip's final details. As a safari expert for Go2Africa, van Niekerk knows just what people need for a safari trip.

"Leave your perfume at home," she said. "Your DEET cream becomes your safari perfume."

DEET is the active ingredient in most bug sprays, so van Niekerk stressed that I should pack bug spray and sunscreen for my trip.

I was glad I did. The Serengeti sun was harsh, and even on shorter safari drives, I could feel my face burning. Meanwhile, bug spray gave me some added reassurance against malaria.

While some lodges provide bug spray and sunscreen, I was glad I didn't rely on others and packed my own.

Layers were useful for chilly mornings and hot afternoons.
Rain gear for key during afternoon showers in the Serengeti.
Rain gear was useful during afternoon showers in the Serengeti.

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Before spending a week in the Serengeti, I pictured long days in the sun, afternoons driving down dusty roads, arid climates, and sweat.

Thankfully, I was smart enough to check the region's weather, where lows dipped into the 50s.

As someone who hates the cold, I knew I'd need more than the tank tops and T-shirts I originally planned to pack.

For this trip, I made sure I had a sweater, puffer vest, lightweight button-downs, tank tops, T-shirts, shorts, pants, and rain gear.

I was thrilled I had options throughout the trip. Mornings and evenings in the bush are chilly, afternoons are scorching, and some afternoon showers also hit.

Having a variety of clothes for all temperatures and weather was key to being comfortable.

I would change one thing about the layers: I'll skip packing base layers next time.
The author wore a long-sleeved base layer only once during her trip.
The author wore a long-sleeved base layer only once during her trip.

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Packing layers was key to my successful safari wardrobe, but surprisingly, I didn't wear any of the light, long-sleeved shirts I packed.

That's because the temperatures changed drastically in the Serengeti. When it was chilly in the mornings, I needed heavier layers like jackets and sweaters. When the sun finally came up, it got hot quickly. Instead of wanting a tight, long-sleeved layer, I opted for looser button-downs.

Next time, I'd skip packing base layers altogether.

I stressed far too much about only packing neutrals.
The author in neutrals outside a lodge in the Serengeti.
The author in neutrals outside a lodge in the Serengeti.

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Everything I saw, read, and heard leading up to my safari trip emphasized the need to pack neutral colors.

Olives, tans, browns, and khakis were good. Blues and blacks were a no-go since those colors attract tsetse flies, which carry a sleeping sickness disease.

Meanwhile, bright colors can alarm and scare off animals.

As someone whose wardrobe consists of 80% black clothing, discovering this was a major stressor, and I ended up on a shopping spree before my trip.

But when I spoke to van Niekerk right before my trip, she reassured me that safari attire is much more casual and flexible than I had read online.

Her advice is to pack what you already own. Don't stress too much if you don't have a complete khaki-colored wardrobe. Instead, prioritize neutrals where you can. She added that you don't need to avoid colors completely.

Besides a walking safari, there was never a time when I felt like the color of my clothing would have impacted my trip or animal viewing. By the end, I regretted buying clothes I might not wear again.

Similarly, my packed clothes focused on the outdoors when I should've prioritized comfort.
The author in comfy clothing before a flight.
The author in comfy clothing before a flight.

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"This might change your whole packing list, but I actually take a lot of dresses," van Niekerk said. "You want to be comfortable."

As we chatted via video, I eyed my packed bag. It was stuffed with hiking pants, sweat-wicking athletic shirts, and hefty khaki cargo pants.

My focus had been on packing clothes for the outdoors, but van Niekerk reminded me that much of a safari vacation involves a lot of lounging β€” you're often sitting in a safari vehicle or hanging at a lodge.

"People are dressing like they're rangers going into a park. You're on vacation," she said.

After our call, I swapped a few pairs of pants for a dress and squeezed in a pair of sandals. I'm glad I did.

While I did need closed-toe shoes for a walking safari, there were days when I only wore sandals. The same goes for my clothing. I did need some pieces designed for hiking, but most of the time, I could prioritize comfort.

If I were to pack again, I'd listen to van Niekerk even more with a packing list full of dresses and comfy clothes.

My biggest packing mistake was the cash I brought.
Cash in a wallet.
Cash in a wallet.

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Tipping is the norm across most of Africa.

Travel agents and outlets like Go2Africa have outlined the standards of what to tip, so figuring out the currency and how much cash to bring wasn't difficult.

What I didn't know is that people prefer (and sometimes require) new, undamaged dollars.

When I landed in Tanzania and went to pay for my first taxi ride, the driver refused my $10 bill β€” it had a small tear in the middle.

For the rest of the trip, I sorted out my nicest dollars to give to lodge staff, safari guides, butlers, and drivers. When I landed in Uganda for the second portion of my trip, the guidelines were clear, "Please be aware that only post-2006 US Dollar bills are acceptable. Bills should be in excellent condition with no tears, stains or markings," my safari outfitters website said.

Next time, I'd make sure my bank was giving me new money for tips.

Small items like a reusable straw and packs of tissues will be in my backpack for the next trip.
A person sips out of a reusable straw.
A person sips out of a reusable straw.

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Thankfully, the lodges I stayed at had almost everything I needed. Most had reusable water bottles, bug spray, and sunscreen ready.

There were just a few small items I wish I had packed.

For example, I would have loved to have a reusable plastic straw. Safaris are bumpy rides, which means drinking out of a water bottle's open mouth was nearly impossible. A reusable straw would've allowed me to drink while we were on the move.

There were also a few times I used public restrooms β€” at airstrips and park entrances β€” where there wasn't toilet paper. A pack of tissues would've solved that problem.

Considering my biggest mistakes were forgetting a straw and not having enough dresses, I'd say packing for my first safari was a success.
The author before here eight-day safari trip.
The author before her eight-day safari trip.

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The safari experience was much more casual than I anticipated.

Between the clothing and lodges stocking necessities, it was hard to make any significant packing mistakes.

For a future safari, I'll prioritize comfy clothes, packing new money, and having a reusable straw handy.

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I've spent 400 hours road-tripping 2,800 miles around the US. These are the biggest mistakes I've made.

30 November 2024 at 04:19
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The author has road-tripped through 30 states around the US and has some regrets.

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  • Road-tripping around the US can be awe-inspiring β€” if you avoid making mistakes.
  • I've traveled 2,800 miles on US road trips and had some regrets.
  • In the future, I will spend fewer daily hours on the road and rely less on stops for caffeine.

Road trips can be amazing, awe-inspiring, and annoying.

I'd know β€” I've spent 400 hours traveling 2,800 miles on the road. I've passed through 30 states around the Southwest and up the coasts. I've traveled from Texas to the Carolinas, New Mexico to Oregon, and twice from Arizona to NYC. I've toured the Northeast in a van with my band. I've slept in more campsites and parking lots than I can count.

So, what makes an otherwise amazing, awe-inspiring road trip feel annoying? Mistakes. And I've had time to make a bunch of them.

These are the six biggest mistakes I've made on the road that I'll avoid in the future.

Bringing my own food on the road saves money and time, but messy ingredients make trips more stressful.
Car Near Greek Beach with Lunch Items on Dashboard
Making food in the car is messy.

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In the summer of 2015, I took a two-week-long road trip for the first time. Before heading out for the journey from Austin, Texas, to Napa Valley, California, and back, I headed to the grocery store and loaded up the cart with ingredients for meals I could make in the car β€” sliced bread, deli meats, cheeses, peanut butter, and jelly. And I couldn't forget pickles, mayo, tomatoes, and avocados to make the sandwiches more dynamic.

I imagined staying healthy by skipping fast-food joints to lather and stack these ingredients into custom delights.

But it looked better in my head.

Creating sandwiches on the road was stressful, and making a mess was all too easy. My hands shook as I spread mayo in a moving car. And resealing meats and cheeses to be airtight wasn't as simple as the packages claimed.

By the time I could eat my sandwiches, my hands and parts of the passenger seat were sticky. Since that trip, I have only packed ready-made "meals" for road trips, like protein bars and shakes.

For snacks, I stick to dry items like trail mix that aren't coated in dusty flavors.

Forgetting to pack my own source of caffeine made my trips more expensive.
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A driver sips a to-go coffee on a road trip.

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If you're anything like me, caffeine on a road trip is a must.

However, I've taken off for several trips without my own source of energy handy. When this happens, I end up spending an additional $10-$20 per day at coffee shops.

Recently, I've avoided additional stops and expenses by packing MiO, a water flavor enhancer with vitamins and caffeine.

Adding caffeine to my water instead of downing a coffee also helps me stay hydrated.

Spending too many hours on the road made trips less enjoyable …
The sun sets behind a hill with telephone wires connecting to a pole on the left
The sun sets over a country road in Texas.

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Many of my road trip experiences took place in college, when energy was high and funds were tight.

My friends and I often prioritized covering as much ground as possible with the little bit of cash we had. This meant we spent 12 to 14 hours on the road some days.

Many of these hours were fun, but once the sun went down, so did the energy. Without a view or a sense of place in those later hours, it felt like we could have been driving anywhere.

In my experience, the nighttime road hours feel twice as long as the daylight hours. I would avoid spending more than two hours on the road after dark.

… especially when arriving at campsites after dark.
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A campsite outside Zion National Park.

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After a long day on the road, the last thing anyone wants to do is pitch a tent β€” especially in the dark.

In July 2017, I took a two-and-a-half-week road trip to national parks and monuments in Texas, Arizona, Utah, and Colorado.

The budget was extra tight, so we camped or slept in the car every night.

I remember arriving at our campsite outside Zion National Park in Utah. I don't remember how many hours we'd been on the road, but only the stars lit up the sky when I got out of the car.

I wanted to simply lie down and look up, but I had a shelter to pitch. Assembling a tent in the dark is challenging. Even with the car lights on for help, finding the right pieces to connect was difficult.

I'm not sure how long it took to pitch the tent that night, but I went to bed thinking I wouldn't put myself in the same situation again.

Avoiding my phone in the car made me miss crucial stops.
A road sign on NV state route 375, the extraterrestrial highway at the Crystal Springs junction, alerting drivers the next opportunity for gas is 150 miles
Don't miss crucial road signs.

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As a cusp millennial, I love to play the game of not using my phone to find food or rest stops and just relying on signs in the present moment.

Well, I used to love it.

The problem with this game is that I'm not only relying on signs to tell me what's coming up but also relying on my attention span, which can be shorter than a sentence.

So, how do you lose this game? You miss the sign that says, "This is the last gas station for 100 miles." I've done it more than once, and it sucks. I've never gotten stuck, but I've gotten close.

My best advice is to find other road games to pass the time and keep your phone handy.

Traveling too fast left me unfulfilled.
The author sits on the edge of a canyon with rich, green canyons in front of her.
The author looks over the North Rim of the Grand Canyon.

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When road-tripping from Austin, where I lived in college, the first and last days of a trip will likely just be getting in and out of Texas β€” Austin is in the middle of the gigantic state.

Because of this, my road trips in college were rushed. I'd travel as far as Oregon and visit as many as six national parks in less than three weeks.

I'm grateful that I've been able to experience so many different natural landscapes and environments around the US, but I don't feel like I've spent enough time in any of them to truly take in each setting.

Now, as an adult, I embrace slow travel.

When I take a road trip unrelated to work, I pick one or two places and stay awhile.

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I spent $36,000 renovating my bathroom. It's gorgeous, but there are 5 mistakes I wish I'd avoided.

29 November 2024 at 06:17
Bathroom with narrow black window next to toilet and fluted floating vanity with two sinks and two arched mirrors above it
My bathroom renovation cost me thousands of dollars and I'm still not 100% happy with how everything went down.

Chris Deacon

  • I planned ahead and consulted with experts but still made mistakes while renovating my bathroom.
  • My floor looks dirty quickly because the grout is too light and I chose the wrong vanity lightning.
  • The shower niches look nice but don't drain properly because they're not angled.

As a writer with kids, I'd long ago abandoned the dream of a bathroom remodel. Instead, I'd learned to live with perpetually loose floor tiles and a tub that was as shallow as it was short.

Then, one day, the shower wall caved in, exposing a gaping hole of black mold. Outwardly, I cursed our bad fortune. Inwardly, I threw back my head and silently screamed, "We're renovating!"

With the help of a small inheritance, we transformed our tiny, dilapidated bathroom into a clean and airy space that sparks joy whenever I use it.

The renovation required a full gut down to the studs. We moved the door, opened the ceiling, and splurged on a double vanity and high-end fixtures.

I made good calls and a few bad ones and probably spent 50,000 Canadian dollars (about $36,000) total.

Although I consulted with a designer and sought help from my design-savvy sister, there are a few things I'd definitely do differently next time.

I should've done my shower-niche homework.
Tiled bathroom with two shower niches above a tub
Who knew shower niches could be so stressful?

Chris Deacon

I added shower niches for storage and was thrilled with my design choices until I had my first shower and noticed water pooling in both shelves.

After a quick Google search, I realized the tiling at the bottom of a niche should be angled to let the water drain. I hadn't thought of this, and my contractor apparently hadn't either.

The niches aren't angled at all. Worse, they're in a part of the shower that gets especially wet.

They don't always dry between showers so, over time, water could seep through the tile and into the framing behind β€” which might eventually cause another mold problem.

A darker grout would've helped my floor tiles look cleaner.
Honecomb grayish white tiles with white grout between them
It's hard to keep my floors looking clean.

Chris Deacon

During the design process, I had to select a grout to accompany my beautiful white-gray Carrara marble tiles.

At the time, I chose a light color thinking it would seamlessly match the tiles β€” it did. Unfortunately, it's also a dirt magnet in the high-foot-traffic area around the sink.

No amount of scrubbing has helped thus far and comparing it to the pristine tile under the vanity hurts my heart a bit. Next time, I'll go at least two shades darker with floor grout to help mask the unavoidable grime of this busy zone.

I didn't appreciate the importance of specs.
Toilet next to floating fluted vanity with gold sink hardware above it
I had to pay to cut up my vanity because the plumbing was in the wrong spot.

Chris Deacon

It took forever to find the perfect floating vanity with drawers and space for two sinks. At last, I imported a beautiful fluted piece from Italy.

While awaiting its arrival, my contractor roughed in the plumbing based on the standard height for vanities. It turns out my piece was not standard β€” its cutouts for pipes didn't match up with the now-installed plumbing lines.

Fortunately, we were able to cut out a notch in the back of each of the drawers to accommodate pipes. This was better than buying a new piece, but it added another 400 Canadian dollars to my budget.

Next time, I'd ensure my contractor had all the specs before mounting or installing anything.

The lighting for my vanity area isn't great.
Bulb light between two arched mirrors above a fluted vanity
With so many balls in the air, I didn't pay enough attention to some things, like my vanity lighting.

Chris Deacon

Although I'd put a lot of thought into the placement of pot lights in the ceiling, I neglected to do the same with vanity lighting.

Instead of, say, three lights placed at eye level or two over the mirrors, I settled on just one placed between the two mirrors. This was, in part, to save money.

But one light doesn't provide nearly enough illumination when you're using the mirrors. (Just ask my teens!)

I don't really have enough room for three sconces, but I wish I 'd at least placed one above each mirror. I'm now sourcing new (hopefully cheap) sconces, which I'll also have to pay an electrician to install. Ouch.

I wish I'd paid more attention when ordering my custom window.
Narrow black window with grate on bathroom wall next to toilet
The window wasn't what I expected it to be.

Chris Deacon

When I discovered my existing window had to go, I knew I wanted to replace it with an industrial-style one complete with grilles running in a grid on the outside.

I could already picture the adorable piles of snow that would collect in the corners come December. Since I was so certain and so busy I ordered my window over the phone.

When the window arrived, I was shocked to find the grilles were between the sheets of glass. I'd never seen this design before, and it was definitely not my intended vibe.

It was a custom piece, so I couldn't return it. Instead, I focused on the positives: This was much cheaper and way easier to clean than the ones with grilles on the outside.

Since it's a small window, I've gotten used to it and even come to like it. But if ever I'm in a position to add windows to another room in my house, I'll spend more time and money to ensure I order the grilles on the outside.

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I've gone on over 30 safaris in South Africa. Here are 6 things I wish I knew before my first one.

27 November 2024 at 05:47
Sophie sitting on a rock overlooking rocky mountains covered in greens and a river with rocks in it.
I've been on over 30 safaris, and there are a few things I wish I had known before my first one.

Sophie Baker

  • There are several things I wish I'd known before I went on my first safari in South Africa.
  • I didn't expect to experience a wide range of weather conditions in the winter months.
  • If possible, I'd recommend booking a guided drive to get the most out of the safari.

When I went on my first safari, I thought I had a pretty good idea of what to expect β€” lots of animals, plenty of sun, and maybe a little dust.

But now that I've been on over 30 safaris in South Africa, I've realized just how little I knew back then.

Here are six things I wish someone had told me before I embarked on a safari for the first time.

The weather in Africa isn't always hot and dry.
Two people overlooking a large body of water surrounded by dirt and sand with the sun shining in the sky in South Africa.
I recommend packing for a range of weather conditions.

Sophie Baker

When envisioning a safari, the image of a hot, sunny African day probably comes to mind. Although that's often the case, weather on safari can be unpredictable and have a huge impact on the overall experience.

South African winters β€” which last from around June through September β€” can be surprisingly cold, especially on early morning game drives. That's why I recommend bringing a warm jacket, hat, and gloves during these months.

The good news is that the best wildlife-viewing opportunities often occur in cooler weather. TheΒ lack of rain usually makes the animals easier to spotΒ since scarce water forces them to gather around watering holes.

Don't self-drive on your first safari.
A safari group enjoying drinks on a rocky surface overlooking the sunset in South Africa.
Game rangers can point out animals that might otherwise be overlooked.

Sophie Baker

Self-driving in places like South Africa's Kruger National Park is a fantastic experience β€” if you know what you're doing.

For a first-timer, hiring a game ranger or opting for guided drives can be an invaluable experience. This is because these guides are wildlife experts trained to spot animals the average viewer may not notice by themselves.

Countless times, I've had rangers spot big cats and even elephants that I would've driven right past because they were camouflaged with the trees. I've learned plenty about the terrain, animal behavior, and history of the park from these guides.

Private reserves offer a different β€” and often better β€” experience for first-timers.
Sophie on a game drive vehicle in South Africa.
Private reserves are worth the splurge, in my opinion.

Sophie Baker

Private reserves are protected wildlife areas owned by individuals or organizations. They usually offer the same wildlife-viewing options as national parks, but a few key differences can make going private a better option.

In some reserves, rangers are allowed to drive off-road to get you closer to the action, whether that's a pride of lions or a herd of elephants.

You're also less likely to encounter large crowds at a private reserve. For example, in some popular national parks, it's not unusual to find 10 or more vehicles jostling for a view of an animal sighting. However, in private reserves, the number of vehicles is limited.

The catch is, of course, that private reserves are more expensive. But in my opinion, the intimate and exclusive experience is well worth the extra cost, especially for a first-time safari-goer.

The smaller animals are just as exciting to watch as the Big Five.
A cheetah among the branches and leaves in South Africa.
Some of the less-famous animals are just as exciting to see on safari.

Sophie Baker

Before my first safari, I didn't give much thought to the smaller animals. I was focused on the Big Five β€” lions, leopards, rhinos, elephants, and buffalo.

But one of the unexpected joys of safari is witnessing the incredible variety of smaller creatures that call Africa home.

For example, Africa is a birder's paradise, and even if you don't consider yourself a bird enthusiast, it's hard not to get caught up in the excitement.

Some of the less-famous animals β€” like wild dogs, cheetahs, servals, and hyenas β€” are stunning to see, too.

Don't forget to pack binoculars.
A unique bird perched on a wooden railing in South Africa.
I've found binoculars can significantly enhance the safari experience.

Sophie Baker

People often underestimate the importance of a pair of binoculars.

The guide will typically have a pair and offer to let you have a look, but that typically means sharing with five other people who are all trying to check out the same thing.

Make sure to tell the ranger it’s your first safari.
Zebras roaming on a field in South Africa.
Rangers usually want to give first-timers the best experience possible.

Sophie Baker

When you board the safari vehicle, you'll usually have a chance to chat with your ranger beforehand. If it's your first time, let them know.

If your guide thinks you've seen the "everyday" stuff, they might whizz past zebras or skip talking about some basic animal behaviors and fun facts.

However, for a first-timer, these are magical and exciting experiences. If you let them know you're new to this, game rangers will usually want to make your first time as memorable as possible.

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A career coach shares 4 things to immediately stop sharing online if you're looking for a job

25 November 2024 at 02:07
Madeline Mann headshot in office.

Diana Feil.

  • Madeline Mann, a career coach, advises job seekers to be careful about what they post online.
  • Mann said job recruiters will check a candidate's LinkedIn and other social media platforms.
  • She said sharing about your current job search journey on LinkedIn could backfire.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Madeline Mann, a 32-year-old career coach and CEO of Self Made Millennial from Los Angeles. It has been edited for length and clarity.

I've been a career coach for about six years. As the CEO of Self Made Millennial, my career coaching service, I want people to feel confident in selling themselves and ultimately land the job offer.

When it comes to job hunting, I tell my clients that recruiters will definitely check their LinkedIn profile β€” but they might not stop there. It's very likely they'll search for candidates on other social media platforms too.

For that reason, when looking for work, there are several things you shouldn't share online. Here are four of them.

1. Don't share your job search journey

When you're job searching, I'd heavily advise against documenting your journey. There has been a surge of people on LinkedIn, sharing what it's like to apply for jobs in today's market.

They say things like, "Oh, I just went through this company's interview process, and I didn't get the job," or, "Look how silly this job application is β€” and here's how I feel about it."

While it might get you some good engagement, understand employers are watching, too. As a job seeker, you don't want them to think, "Oh no, if we put this person through our interview process, what are they going to publicly say about our company?"

Although the job search journey can be pretty isolating, and it can feel good to talk about it, you really want to be cautious here.

2. Mental health

Similarly, I would advise against sharing your mental health journey online. This is something that has become a much more mainstream conversation and for such good reason.

But understand, it's something that an employer could make snap judgments on. Those hiring might question your ability to do the role, and you might not know it β€” as they won't tell you that.

Sharing things about depression, or anxiety, might make an employer wonder, "How is that going to impact our business?" and "Are they going to be capable of this job?"

Even if you're being uplifting and reflective, it's very risky. Instead, I'd try to keep this more to your inner circle, where you can control who has access to knowing.

3. Don't share your rΓ©sumΓ© online

On LinkedIn, there's an option to share your rΓ©sumΓ© β€” and I wouldn't recommend doing that.

If you share the same rΓ©sumΓ© everywhere online, you're missing the chance to tailor it to what that company is looking for. This is especially important if you have diverse interests in different roles; that one rΓ©sumΓ© could send the wrong message.

Instead, I suggest only sharing your rΓ©sumΓ© with the company you're applying to, rather than making it public on your website or LinkedIn profile.

4. Consider not sharing political campaigns

If you've worked on a political campaign, it's important to consider whether you should actually include it on your LinkedIn profile.

Yes, you likely gained valuable experience, but before posting it, think about the cities you want to work in, the role you're applying for, and the jobs you'd like to pursue.

Many people struggle to separate their beliefs and may make assumptions based on who they think you voted for. These differences can cloud someone's judgment, and when you're applying for jobs, you don't want that to happen.

Even if they shouldn't, small biases can make a big impact. In the end, you don't want to give people the ability to quickly judge you before they get to know you.

Protecting your accounts

When applying for jobs, go to Google, type in your name, and see what comes up. A recruiter will usually start there. They might see your LinkedIn profile, but they could also come across your X and Instagram accounts, too. If those platforms appear, they'll likely click on those links.

To protect yourself from that happening β€” you can do a few things. First, you can put your social media accounts on private, which isn't necessarily foolproof, but a start, or you can set your social media accounts to include just your first and middle name, so your last name doesn't appear.

You can also slightly misspell your last name. For example, I saw someone whose last name starts with "W," but he used two "V"s instead. That way, if someone searched his last name, it wouldn't show up.

But just as a general rule, know that if someone does get through your privacy settings, there are ways to see what you've liked and who you follow.

Before posting, ask yourself is this the right way to portray myself? Should I just send this in a group text to my friends instead? Really consider those things before posting.

If you're a career coach who would like to share helpful job searching tips, please email Manseen Logan at [email protected].

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