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I was on 'Say Yes to the Dress.' Here are 5 things that surprised me about being on the show.

The writer wears a wedding dress and speaks to Randy Fenoli
I was on "Say Yes to the Dress" after a flood destroyed my original gown.

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  • When I was on TLC's "Say Yes to the Dress," I was surprised by a few things.
  • The show isn't scripted, and I still receive fan mail years later.Β 
  • I thought Randy Fenoli was nice and caring and I liked that we share a Louisiana connection.

Back in 2016, I was on a special episode of TLC's "Say Yes to the Dress" (season 15, episode six).

I planned to get married earlier that year, but when my Louisiana home flooded and my gown was destroyed, it looked like my dream wedding was ruined. As my fiancΓ© and I considered pushing the date back, "Say Yes to the Dress" posted an online request for brides-to-be who were affected by the flood.

A friend nominated me and I was selected to be on the show. Here are five surprising things I learned from my "Say Yes to the Dress" episode.

I'm one of few people β€” if not the only bride β€” who received a free dress on 'Say Yes to the Dress'

The writer wears a wedding dress and speaks to Randy Fenoli
I chose a Mark Zunino gown and jewelry from Kleinfield's collection.

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Normally, the "Say Yes to the Dress" team starts by breaking down your budget, but because my original wedding gown was destroyed, I received a free dress.

My episode highlighted the tragedy of the flood that took most of my belongings and I was offered the best care by bridal designer Randy Fenoli and his team. "Say Yes" flew my husband and me to New York, where we stayed in a lavish hotel right by Times Square.

My family lost everything in the flood, so it was a huge contrast to go from watching all of our stuff wash away to wearing a Mark Zunino gown, Jimmy Choo shoes, and Kleinfield's own collection of jewelry.

Fenoli was so kind, and we even shared a personal connection

The writer hugs Randy Fenoli as her guests stand up and clap in background during dress fitting
Randy Fenoli was attentive and caring as I prepared for my weddding.

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As we filmed, I could feel Fenoli had a strong bond with the people who he worked with to tell my story. I'm still so grateful to have been chosen to share my experience about planning a wedding that felt as if it would never happen, and I cannot thank that team enough for helping me feel the most beautiful and cared for.

During the process, I learned that Fenoli actually grew up in Louisiana, and he's also dealt with natural disasters. He was trapped in a two-story apartment in New Orleans during Hurricane Katrina in 2005.

I think my experience touched him because it was a story that was so close to home.

I still talk to Fenoli to this day, and he featured my story in a special season-17 episode where he discussed his most memorable brides.

The show isn't scripted

The crew captured my genuine reactions.

And if I said something funny, cute, or cool, I quickly learned to expect to see that footage over and over again.

Unfortunately, I didn't get any of the footage of my own wedding

The writer wears a wedding dress and holds a bouquet and walks down the aisle
I was surprised that I wouldn't get any footage of my wedding.

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I was so excited to have such an enormous film crew and producers record my wedding because I thought I would receive some of the footage. I also didn't hire my own videographer to capture the details of my entire wedding, so sadly, I don't have the day's events on film.Β 

Still, the "Say Yes" production team gave me five minutes of absolute fabulousness.

Hindsight is 20/20, but I still wish I would've known the footage wouldn't be available to me because I definitely would've hired a videographer.

I still receive fan mail about our episode every so often

People may not know that my husband and I have split up since our episode aired.

Still, every time fans contact me, I don't really know what to say other than, "Thank you."

This story was originally published on July 14, 2022, and most recently updated on December 20, 2024.

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We had an unconventional engagement and wedding. I proposed to him, my engagement ring came after the wedding, and we walked each other down the aisle.

Maria Polansky and her husband outside on a beach with a blue sky in the background.
The author and her husband had a nontraditional engagement and wedding.

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  • My husband and I had an unconventional engagement and wedding.
  • We did most wedding traditions in reverse β€” or not at all.
  • I proposed to him, and we got my engagement ring after we got married.

My husband and I did pretty much every wedding tradition in reverse when we got married three years ago.

Though the low-key proposal came first, I got my engagement ring and had my bachelorette party after the wedding. We also did several things that went against Western wedding norms during the process: we had a simple registry office wedding where we walked down the aisle together, I kept my last name, and I opted for colored gemstones over diamonds in my ring.

Some of these decisions were circumstantial. We got married during the peak of the pandemic, so we couldn't have had a big celebration even if we wanted to. Others were based on our personal preferences. I've never considered myself a traditional person, and I knew I wanted to do things that felt right for me when it came to marriage.

I proposed to him and decided to keep my last name

Technically, I was the one that proposed. We're an international couple, which means immigration law dictates our ability to be together physically. I had moved to the UK (where my husband is from) on a two-year working holiday visa, but I knew I'd eventually need another visa for us to stay together long-term.

I didn't want to accrue student loan debt with a student visa and wasn't eligible for a work visa, making a family visa my only option. We hadn't been living together long enough to qualify for the unmarried partner visa, so I asked my then-boyfriend if he would consider marrying me. We knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together, so we decided to go for it.

For me, the most important thing was us being together, which is why I was perfectly happy with our quiet COVID-era wedding. I'd never dreamt of having a big, traditional wedding; I'm an introvert who struggles with party planning. We decided to walk down the aisle together because we liked the idea of entering our marriage as equal partners β€” a practice I've since learned is standard in Sweden and other Nordic countries.

I also decided to keep my last name following the wedding. I didn't want to deal with the logistics of changing a name in two countries in addition to visa paperwork, and I wanted to keep the name that reflected my heritage. My husband fully supported my decision.

My ring and bachelorette party came after the wedding

We also chose my engagement ring later because we were focused on securing a wedding date during the pandemic, which was no small feat. Once things were settled, my husband encouraged me to choose the design I'd want to wear for the rest of my life. I've always preferred colored and iridescent gemstones to diamonds, so I selected a ring featuring our two birthstones: opal (mine) and emerald (his).

The ring arrived on the day of my bachelorette party, which my friends hosted for me once COVID restrictions slightly eased. It felt funny to do things in reverse, but as the wedding taught me β€” the most important thing is simply being with the people you love.

We have spoken about having a bigger celebration, but we know it would be extremely difficult to plan with our family and friends living all across the globe. I won't be upset if it never happens, because it won't take away from our love for each other. When I think about our wedding day, I love that it was so intimate and relaxed. It felt like the perfect reflection of our relationship. My only regret? Not finding a way to sneak our dog into the ceremony.

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I'm a wedding planner. Here are 8 trends I think will be huge in 2025 — and 3 that are going out of style.

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I'm seeing more couples incorporate whimsy into their weddings.

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  • Based on my observations as a wedding planner, here are trends I think will be in and out next year.
  • I predict live music, whimsical touches, and photo booths will continue to be huge in 2025.
  • More couples are wanting low-key wedding entrances, and many no longer stream their ceremonies.

I've spent many years working as a wedding planner, and have planned dozens of special days.

Although some things in this industry rarely change, I do see many wedding trends come and go. As we head into 2025, here are a few I think will be huge β€” and some I already see falling out of favor.

Live music is becoming a popular choice for ceremonies, receptions, and cocktail hours.
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Some couples hire cello players for ceremonies.

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For the first time in years, I've had multiple clients hire live musicians β€” not just for the ceremony either.

I'm seeing live bands booked for cocktail hour and the reception, too. (Live music is a great way to have a packed dance floor at a wedding.)

More couples are having their first dance kick off the reception.
Couple dancing on empty dance floor on wedding day
Some couples are having their first dance before the first course is served at the wedding.

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Several of my recent clients chose to do their first dance as soon as guests sat down for a main meal.

It's a good choice for a couple who's put some time into practicing a first dance or really just want people to pay attention to it.

If you do this and don't have additional VIP dances planned for later in the reception, make sure you have a way to signal to guests that your dance floor is officially open. (An announcement works great as does a particularly beloved song.)

Live plants are having a moment.
Couple dancing on wedding day beneath greenery
Live plants can add a fun element to a dance floor.

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Flowers aren't going anywhere, but I'm seeing increased interest in couples wanting to incorporate live plants like succulents, ferns, and even potted trees into their decor.

I'm seeing more venues ask for vendors' proof of insurance.
Long table with greenery centerpieces and folded black cloth napkins and gift box at every seat
Always read your venue contract.

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I've noticed an uptick in the number of venues that require vendors to provide proof of business insurance. This is important for couples to know since not all vendors carry it.

Read your venue contract and use my list of interview questions for vendors to avoid a sticky situation.

Whimsy is so in.
Colorful paper circles hung on poles behind wood table with colorful floral centerpieces and candlesticks
Whimsical weddings have been huge with my clients.

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Many of my clients have begun celebrating the quirky parts of their relationship at their weddings and letting guests in on the fun.

From wearing wings with a wedding dress to using Lego bricks as centerpieces, there are so many unique ways to add whimsy to the big day.

Photo booths have a lot of staying power
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I see photo booths continuing to be popular in the next year.

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There's no denying that people love photo booths β€” they combine a souvenir with an activity.

I'm seeing continued interest in these, especially ones with a real person attending them instead of the more DIY ring-light setups.

Physical mementos are popular β€” especially when they involve a guest experience.
Please sign our guest book sign on plaid cloth
Many couples are going beyond a basic guest book.

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People seem to be craving more physical mementos from their weddings than ever β€” especially when they can help create a memorable experience for guests.

I've seen couples hire artists to paint the ceremony as it happens or to create tintypes and flower pressings for guests.

Audio keepsakes, where couples rent a phone and have guests record messages that'll later be turned into a vinyl, are also popular right now.

Couples are recognizing their people of honor in more unique ways.
Bride and bridesmaids holding wildflower bouqets
People are being honored in different ways at weddings.

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Mixed-gender and mixed-number wedding parties aren't anything new, butΒ how we recognize the people we loveΒ continues to evolve.

Some couples are skipping wedding parties entirely and instead celebrating VIPs through toasts, flower handouts, and other meaningful moments.

On the other hand, custom cocktails aren't as special as they once were.
Bride and wedding guests holding pink mojitos in plastic cups
A lot of couples offer special cocktails inspired by themselves or their pets.

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Over the past few years, couples just had to have custom drinks inspired by themselves and maybe even each of their pets.

These special cocktails are still cute and fun β€” but the once-intense desire to have them seems to be dying down.

I see more couples skipping a formal entrance.
Backs of bride and groom as they enter dimly lit wedding reception
Couples don't have to make a grand entrance into their reception.

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More of my clients want to magically appear during their reception instead of being formally introduced.

This makes sense for introverted folks, and it's not hard to make a grand entrance into a more casual one. For example, skip the coordinated dance moves and don't have the emcee announce the arrival of every VIP.

Not as many people are streaming their weddings.
Person holding phone at wedding ceremony to capture couple
Many people streamed weddings a few years ago.

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Streaming the ceremony and other key wedding-day moments feels like a vestige of a former time.

Folks still use video during a wedding β€” perhaps for calling loved ones who couldn't attend in person β€” but I saw far fewer clients send around Zoom links in the past year.

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A 62-year-old bride surprised herself by falling in love with a sparkly, form-fitting wedding dress

A side-by-side of a bride and groom at their wedding altar and the bride smiling in her gown.
Aldy de Vries wore her dream dress to her August 2024 wedding.

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  • Aldy de Vries and Ron Goed got married in August after over a decade together.
  • De Vries wore a sparkly gown with a corset bodice to their destination wedding in Greece.
  • Footage of de Vries in her wedding gown went viral online.

When Aldy de Vries got engaged in August 2023, she knew she wanted to find a white wedding dress for her big day.

It didn't matter that she was 62 years old and had been married once before. De Vries didn't get to have a wedding when she married her late husband, and she wanted to feel like a bride when this wedding finally came.

Still, de Vries didn't anticipate falling in love with a sparkly, form-fitting wedding gown β€” or that a TikTok video of her dress would amass over 30 million views.

Aldy de Vries and Ron Goed were together for nearly 13 years before they got married.
A bride and groom raise their champagne glasses in a toast.
Aldy de Vries and Ron Goed got married in August 2024.

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De Vries, 62, and Goed, 60, met in 2011 in Holland, where they still live today. She caught Goed's eye when she was out to dinner with friends; they've been an item ever since.

De Vries works in administration at a university, while Goed, who has two daughters, is partially retired but still does some work in the business sector.

Before he proposed in August 2023, Goed consulted de Vries' daughter, Chloe Crouch, 27, because of her close-knit relationship with her mother. De Vries raised Crouch on her own, as Crouch's father died when she was just 11 months old.

Crouch is also the founder of the wedding planning company Chloe Crouch Events, so her insight was even more valuable to Goed.

"He was asking me all those little things, like what kind of engagement ring," Crouch told Business Insider. "It was also not only my job as a wedding planner to advise but also a bit like his daughter. And I know my mom very well."

Of course, de Vries said yes when Goed popped the question.

The couple decided to get married in Greece.
A bride and groom embrace at sunset. The bride smiles at the groom.
The couple got married in Greece.

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De Vries and Goed got married in Zakynthos, Greece, at The Cotton Beach Club on August 31.

They invited just 35 people to the event and held a bigger reception in the Netherlands a week later.

It was a no-brainer that Crouch would plan both wedding celebrations.

She told BI she designed it with an "old-money aesthetic," as she wanted the wedding to feel luxurious and classic with touches like a cigar bar.

De Vries knew she wanted to find a traditional wedding dress for the event.
A woman in a robe and sunglasses lounges on a chaise by a pool. She holds a glass of champagne.
The bride on the morning of her wedding.

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When she married Crouch's father, De Vries didn't have a big wedding with a classic gown. So she knew she wanted the traditional white dress the second time around.

"It was my day with my husband-to-be, and I thought, 'I'm gonna do what I want,'" she said of her decision to wear a traditional wedding gown.

She went shopping with Crouch, Goed's daughters, and a friend to find the perfect dress. It was especially exciting for Crouch and de Vries because they had been big fans of "Say Yes to the Dress" throughout Crouch's teen years.

When she started shopping, de Vries didn't have an exact idea of the type of dress she wanted, though she was pretty set on not wanting a strapless or fitted dress.

To her surprise, de Vries fell in love with a fitted, strapless gown.
A bride and groom smile at each other as the sun sets behind them.
The dress spoke to her.

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De Vries said her loved ones encouraged her to try on several dresses with different silhouettes and designs, leading her to a Made With Love Bridal gown.

With its strapless, form-fitting silhouette, the dress was everything de Vries thought she didn't want.

But she fell in love with it, as did her entourage.

"She loves glitter and glamour," Crouch said of her mother. "I saw the dress with the pearls and glam, and I was like, 'This is her.'"

The gown retailed for $3,100 in the US as of November.

The details made de Vries' dress one of a kind.
A bride and groom embrace at sunset on a balcony.
The gown featured pearl detailing.

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The form-fitting dress had a semi-sheer base and was covered from head to toe in pearlescent beading and delicate lace.

The beading created a subtle crisscross pattern, shimmering as de Vries moved.

The gown was cinched at the waist and flowed into a subtle train at the hem. The fabric was light, perfect for an island wedding.

A corset bodice gave the gown a modern edge.
A bride and groom look at each other and smile in front of trees.
The boning on the corset was subtly visible.

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The corset bodice featured a strapless, sweetheart neckline.

The boning was visible through the slightly sheer fabric, elevating the look. The pearl detailing also stood out against the material.

Classic accessories and styling completed the look.
A bride in a sparkly, white dress sits on a couch and smiles.
The look was effortlessly glamorous.

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De Vries paired her dress with pearl-covered shoes that coordinated with the gown, delicate dangly earrings, and a heart-shaped necklace. The shoes were from Athens, which was a fun way to incorporate the destination into her look.

She wore her hair in a twist for the ceremony with natural but glamorous makeup.

Osima Bridalstudio, whom de Vries knows well because she frequently works with Crouch, styled her hair and makeup.

The dress also had a sweet connection to Crouch's roots.
A bride sits on a couch in her wedding dress.
The dress was from Australia.

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Made With Love Bridal is based in Australia, where Crouch's father was from. She and de Vries lived there until her father's death.

"It's got a little connection with Australia, so it made it even more like, 'Yes, this should be it,'" Crouch said of what the gown's origins meant to them.

De Vries said the dress made her feel like "a different person."
A woman in a strapless wedding dress smiles.
She loved the gown.

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Although it wasn't what she initially imagined, de Vries said the dress was perfect for her.

"I just love that dress," she said. "I thought it was fantastic."

Goed was "blown away" by de Vries' dress.
A bride and groom laugh during their wedding ceremony under a floral arch.
The dress was a surprise to the groom.

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De Vries didn't show Goed her dress before the wedding. She told BI she joked with him throughout their engagement that she would wear a "cupcake dress."

So when he saw her real dress, he was overwhelmed and emotional by how beautiful de Vries looked.

"He was in shock," Crouch said, adding that his emotional reaction to seeing de Vries made her cry. "It was like I had to cry because he was crying so much."

The ceremony took place overlooking the ocean.
A wedding ceremony with a floral arch overlooking the ocean and mountains.
The ceremony space.

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Crouch decorated the ceremony space with white and green florals, covering the seating with large umbrellas to keep guests comfortable.

A massive floral arch served as the centerpiece of the decor.

The House of Artz provided florals for the nuptials.

Both the bride and groom were escorted down the aisle by their daughters.
A side-by-side of a bride and groom walking down the aisle at their wedding.
The wedding was a family affair.

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Because Crouch planned the event, she was working the wedding day in addition to being a bridesmaid.

"At some point, I had to give it away to someone else because I had to walk down the aisle with my mom," she said. "I was still like, 'OK, you come here, you do this,' but as soon as I was with my mom and we walked down the aisle, I was like, 'OK, I'm a bridesmaid for the first time in my life.'"

The duo said Crouch was emotional as they walked down the aisle, while de Vries was full of joy.

De Vries and Goed said personal vows to each other.
A bride and groom kiss under a floral arch during their wedding ceremony.
A friend officiated the wedding.

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A friend of de Vries' was their officiant, which was in line with the intimate feel of the wedding.

"It was all the people who actually make our life happy," she said of the destination wedding's attendees.

She also said that lightning struck at the moment they said "I do," adding a dramatic flair to the nuptials.

De Vries said the ceremony was "perfect."
A bride and groom look at each other during their wedding ceremony in front of a floral archway.
The ceremony was joyful for the bride.

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"I'm a big cry girl," de Vries said. "If it's a movie where somebody cries, I totally go over the top crying. But it didn't happen."

Instead, she was gleeful throughout the day, soaking up the experience.

"I thought it was a magical day," she said, from getting ready with the girls to the ocean-view ceremony.

"I just enjoyed every second of it," she added.

De Vries switched up her hairstyle after the ceremony.
A bride holds a glass of champagne at her wedding.
The hair gave her a second look.

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She didn't wear a different dress for the reception, as more and more brides do.

However, she did change her hairstyle from the updo to a more relaxed, swept-back style to set the tone for the party.

The celebration continued at a beachside reception.
A wedding table is set up in the sand with billowy panels covering it.
The dinner was on the beach.

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Crouch arranged for her mother's 35 guests to dine at one estate table following the ceremony. To make it feel intimate, she framed the area with gossamer drapery.

Crouch said one of the highlights of the day was seeing the wedding come together as she had planned for two people she loves so much.

The details of the reception were chosen with care.
A close-up of a wedding reception table on a beach.
The reception table.

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For instance, Crouch used personalized silk ribbons tied around wine glasses instead of traditional place cards.

She also played with levels in the decor, pairing ultra-high, tapered candles with shorter bouquets.

Studio Spruijt provided stationery for the nuptials.

Crouch said her mom was the easiest wedding client she's ever had.
A bride and her daughter embrace and smile at each other.
Aldy de Vries and Chloe Crouch at the wedding.

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"It was easier because I know her," Crouch said. "I know what she likes. I know what she dislikes."

Crouch also lived with her mother during the wedding planning process, which made putting the event together even simpler. But it was their close bond that truly made it a breeze.

"The majority of my life, we've been together just the two of us," Crouch said. "It was just us. So we've got a really good bond with each other. We can say whatever we like to each other."

"For me, the wedding planning process was the easiest ever," she said.

The wedding was everything de Vries hoped it would be.
A bride and groom pour champagne into a tower of glasses.
The couple at their wedding.

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"It was a party from beginning to end," de Vries said.

"It was just fantastic," she added. "I had no stress. I was so happy."

She credits Crouch's planning as one of the main reasons she was just joyful on her wedding day.

The wedding went viral online after de Vries' photographer shared footage of her on TikTok.
A bride stands in her wedding dress looking at her groom, who is off-camera.
The bride went viral on TikTok.

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Eline Nijburg Photography documented the wedding day, sharing clips of the event on social media after the event.

Nijburg posted a TikTok video of de Vries during the ceremony, where she was laughing and speaking to Goed. The video immediately took off, amassing over 30 million views as of November.

De Vries hopes the video encourages other brides to wear whatever they want on their wedding day.

De Vries wants brides to wear what makes them feel good.
A couple cut their wedding cake.
The couple cutting their cake.

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"Just go with what you want," de Vries said. "Because people tell you, 'Oh, you're 60 years old. Why would you wear that type of dress?' Why not?"

She said the same applies to people who question if brides who have been married before should wear white.

"Why would I go for a certain type of dress because of my age?" she said.
A bride and groom dance as their friends look on. The bride laughs and presses her cheek against the groom's.
She wants brides to wear what they want.

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"Go with what you think is pretty," de Vries advised. "It's your day and not somebody else's."

"You have to be comfy and happy with what you're wearing," she added.

De Vries said she loves Goed's "big heart."
A bride and groom kiss as the sun sets behind them.
The newlyweds.

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"He is very easygoing," she said. "He's a chill person."

"He's got a lot of humor and a very big heart," she added.

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