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3 digital body language signs someone isn't into you, even if they always text back

17 December 2024 at 04:01
A young woman looking skeptical as she reads her texts

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  • Like regular body language, digital body language refers to what's unspoken in texts.
  • It includes how often a person texts as well as how even a conversation feels.
  • A dating expert shared the digital body language signs someone is interested in you.

Conversations on dating apps can be tricky to navigate.

Is it a red flag if a new connection takes three days to respond? Is a text paragraph vulnerable, or self-centered? Does replying with a lone "k" really mean someone hates you?

Logan Ury, the director of relationship science at Hinge, told Business Insider that this is what's known as digital body language (DBL), and it isn't much different from in-person body language, conveying what is unsaid.

Ury said DBL includes "how long somebody waits to respond, whether or not they double-text, what punctuation they use, and if they use emojis."

From her internal research at Hinge, she's learned that users β€” particularly Gen Zers β€” rely heavily on DBL to quickly gauge a match's interest in them. Among those daters, there are some widely agreed-upon indicators that a person isn't actually into you, even if they technically always respond to your texts.

To prevent wasting your time on a confusing situationship, "you want to be good at deciphering somebody's DBL," Ury said. She added that it's important to be aware of how you come off when you do like someone, so that they're "not misinterpreting how you feel about them."

She shared some digital body language signs that someone's not really interested in you.

They always respond, but never consistently

Healthy relationships are built on trust and communication. Naturally, daters look for signs of it from the very first message.

According to a 2024 Hinge report surveying 15,000 Gen Z users, Ury said users have a 44% higher chance of getting responses when they answer messages within 24 hours. Their matches sense more seriousness.

This goes beyond the first few messages. She said 76% of users also look for message consistency. Someone who texts for hours one day but then is MIA for three is widely considered as disinterested.

Because of that, she discourages matches from "playing it cool" or delaying responses when they really like someone. "It's much better to just not play games and respond quickly because those people are more likely to get onto dates and into relationships," she said.

Your text bubbles are imbalanced

Deep relationships require reciprocity and a sense of evenness. Beyond timing, Ury said the flow of conversation is a big sign of how interested someone is in you.

But it's about more than just taking turns hitting each other up, Ury said. "For iPhone users, there needs to be that mix between blue and gray" text bubbles, she said. That includes the match "leading with a question and then offering answers that build conversation," she said.

If they write you walls of text without asking anything back, it doesn't indicate that they're interested in knowing who you are. Ury has a term for these people: "ZQ," or "zero questions." ZQs indicate a lack of genuine curiosity to learn more about you, she said.

They're 'bad' at texting, but don't connect in other ways

Not everyone loves texting a lot β€” plenty of people prefer calls or simply can't be on their phones during the work day.

Ury said that if they're interested, they should be communicating with you about how they want to stay in touch. If they're offline during the workday, they should be transparent about that β€” and find other ways to share that they're thinking of you, such sending voice notes, memes, or photos of their day.

But if they don't make an effort to be clear about liking you, it comes off like they're not that interested in you.

It's why Ury emphasizes meeting in real life quickly if you hit it off with someone: digital body language isn't a science, and sometimes it's worth having conversations around communication differences.

Plus, the better way to confirm if someone likes you is to meet them in person.

"You need to get to the date as soon as possible," she said. "You don't know if somebody's in-person vibes will match their digital body language."

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Packers handle Seahawks to maintain playoff spot; Geno Smith leaves game with knee injury

16 December 2024 at 03:30

The Green Bay Packers picked up a crucial win over the Seattle Seahawks, 30-13, to help their playoff chances on Sunday night.

The Packers moved to 10-4 on the year, maintaining their spot in the wild card race.

Meanwhile, the Seahawks fell out of first place in the NFC West, as their 8-6 record allows the Los Angeles Rams to move ahead of them due to the current tiebreaker.Β 

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Things got off to a hot start for the Packers, who came off a tough loss to their divisional foe, the Detroit Lions, last week.Β 

It was star running back Josh Jacobs finding some huge holes his offensive line created in the Seahawks’ defense that allowed him to tally 42 total yards to ultimately get a one-yard touchdown run into the end zone for the quick 7-0 lead.Β 

Then, Packers quarterback Jordan Love threw a quick pass on the next drive to Romeo Doubs, who fought his way for the 13-yard touchdown.Β 

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Meanwhile, Geno Smith was not finding the same success with his offense, as they only totaled three points in the first half.Β 

It included a red zone interception from Smith on third-and-9 on Green Bay’s 14-yard line, as he was looking for tight end Noah Fant, but Carrington Valentine jumped the route to pick him off.Β 

However, the second half saw a Seattle defense that stymied the Packers’ solid run game, and that ultimately led to a number of three-and-outs to give the Seahawks a chance to get back into the game.Β 

Then, Smith was injured after trying to make a pass midway through the third quarter, and slamming his helmet on the sideline showed that he was clearly injured.Β 

Sam Howell, the Washington Commanders’ quarterback from 2023, took his place under center, and he took over the rest of the way as Smith was ruled out with a knee injury.Β 

The Seahawks were able to find the end zone in the fourth quarter, as Zach Charbonnet, taking over the starting role again for an injured Kenneth Walker III, got the right blocks and sprinted 24 yards to make it a 23-13 game.Β 

It was too little, too late though, as the Packers held off Howell to come away with the victory.Β 

The nail in the coffin was Doubs’ second touchdown catch of the game, and it was a terrific one as he picked it off the turf in the back of the end zone to make it count for six.

Looking at the stat sheet, Love finished the game 20-of-27 for 229 yards with his two touchdowns, while Jacobs had 94 rushing yards on 26 carries and 42 yards through the air on four catches with his rushing score to open the game.Β 

For the Seahawks, Jaxon Smith-Njigba had 10 catches for 83 yards to lead the team, though the Seahawks only generated 80 yards on the ground.Β 

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Rom-coms like 'Hot Frosty' and 'Notting Hill' understand a key ingredient for love: walkable towns and cities

14 December 2024 at 02:22
Landry Levine standing with a presentation on a fake proposal for a "V" (for Valentine's) train line from Brooklyn to Queens.
An event in Brooklyn featuring a tongue-in-cheek proposal for a New York City "Department of Tenderness."

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  • Rom-coms like "When Harry Met Sally" exemplify how the urban built environment can spark romance.
  • Two New York City-based urban planners are using that lesson to promote "romantic urbanism."
  • Their tongue-in-cheek event in Brooklyn asked: What if we had a City Department of Tenderness?

Netflix's latest holiday rom-com, "Hot Frosty," begins like this: A lonely young widow named Kathy hangs a magical scarf on a snowman in the public square of her idyllic fictional New York town. The snowman comes to life and happens to have a flowing head of hair and a chiseled physique, and is named, you guessed it, Jack. He and Kathy promptly engage in heart-warming hijinks and fall in love.

While the film gets originality points for romanticizing a snowman, it follows the classic holiday rom-com movie formula, which includes, as Bloomberg's Linda Poon has written, an adorable, walkable small town. The town center is the picture of a "5-minute city," with daily amenities clustered together, and plays a key role in facilitating Kathy and Jack's romance. Without it, Kathy never would have stumbled upon Jack in snow form.

The crucial role that well-designed urban environments play in rom-coms struck Daphne Lundi and Louise Yeung β€” New York City urban planners and neighbors β€” when they spent the early days of the pandemic lockdown watching movies in each other's apartments.

In the wake of the pandemic β€” that trapped many in their homes and ushered in widespread remote work and skyrocketing housing costs β€” urbanists like Lundi and Yeung are increasingly urging policymakers to counteract isolation through design.

Sparks flew in "third places" like art galleries and parks in "Rye Lane" and at urban landmarks like the Empire State Building in "Sleepless in Seattle." Paris is a character of its own in "Amelie," and the titular small town is a star of "Fire Island," they noticed.

Harry wouldn't have met Sally without a Manhattan bookstore. In "Notting Hill," the London neighborhood is a central character in the romance between a famous Hollywood actor and a bookshop owner. In some cases β€” think "Sex and the City" and "Emily in Paris" β€” the characters are in love with the city itself.

Lundi and Yeung realized that in those romantic fantasies, a walkable urban landscape brings people together who might not otherwise cross paths β€” and lets them linger. They took that as motivation for how to make real-life cities and towns better for lovers or anyone looking to make new connections.

Lundi and Yeung first wrote about their theory in a 2023 essay called "Romantic Urbanism." But the essay has since transformed into something bigger β€” a call for submissions including design proposals and public events. As policymakers, they're tasked with building affordable housing, creating safe public spaces and accessible transit, and creating jobs. But despite their centrality to quality of life, love, intimacy, and connection aren't policy goals, Yeung told Business Insider.

So they're asking: "How can cities actually be designed to express care, to foster care? What does that care infrastructure actually look like in practice?" she said.

"We need to make spaces for people to be incentivized and for people to want to go out and hang out with each other," said Clio Andris, a professor of city and regional planning and interactive computing at Georgia Tech who's studied how urban design impacts romantic relationships.

A City 'Department of Tenderness'

On a warm, perfectly sunny day in late October, Lundi and Yeung hosted their first public event showcasing their ideas for a more romance-friendly city β€” the inaugural meeting of what they're cheekily calling the New York City Department of Tenderness β€” on a small car-free plaza in Brooklyn.

The event featured several proposals from Schuyler deVos, a creative technologist and web developer, including a presentation on a Brooklyn-Queens train line called the "V line" (Valentine's line) designed to help those in "long-distance" inter-borough relationships.

Street signs promoting love and human connection at a "romantic urbanism" event in Brooklyn, New York.
The "Department of Tenderness" street signs direct people to mingle at stoplights and yield to families.

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Henry McKenzie, who stopped by the presentation, said a cross-borough train line spoke to him.

"Every time you're on the train for more than an hour to see someone, that is an expression of love," he said. He'd also like more free or affordable third spaces where he could gather with his Dungeons & Dragons group, whose members are scattered across the city.

Trey Shaffer, a 25-year-old computer programmer from Long Island City who volunteered at the event, said he finds the pedestrian walkways on New York's bridges to be especially romantic places. "We need more Brooklyn Bridges," he said. "We can just make a copy, like, right next to it."

One attendee at a "romantic urbanism" event in Brooklyn suggested the city needs more trash cans to promote a more connection-friendly environment.
One attendee at a "romantic urbanism" event in Brooklyn suggested cleaner public spaces will promote human connection.

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A city built for romance benefits all kinds of other relationships, too. Lively street corners, safe and accessible third spaces, and affordable housing help familial bonds, friendships, and even loose ties between neighbors and coworkers.

McKenzie's friend Sarah Dolan said that she tends to socialize exclusively with people she already knows in part because of a dearth of communal spaces. "There's not that many opportunities to meet new people, unless you really seek it out," she said.

Lundi and Yeung say they were overwhelmed with the response they've gotten to the project, which has received about 80 submissions, including essays and event proposals. One person wrote about their experience developing relationships while riding New York's paratransit service for people with disabilities. Another is exploring corner bodegas as "care infrastructure."

They hope the project will inspire more urban planners and policymakers to consider fostering human connection and relationships as a core part of their work and make real-world cities more like those in the movies.

"There's this trope of city people as being hardened and hard," Lundi said. "As a New Yorker, part of what this has shown me is that we're actually really tender."

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Josh Jacobs scores 3 touchdowns as Packers dominate injury-riddled 49ers

24 November 2024 at 17:07

Green Bay Packers running back Josh Jacobs scored three touchdowns as the team took advantage of an injury-riddled San Francisco 49ers to win, 38-10, on Sunday.

Jacobs got on the board in the second quarter with a touchdown run from the goal line. He added two more one-yard touchdown scores throughout the rest of the game. He added 106 yards on 26 carries to help push the Packers to the big win.

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It was the first time he had three rushing touchdowns in a game since he was with the Las Vegas Raiders. In October 2022, he scored three times against the Houston Texans.

Packers quarterback Jordan Love was 13-of-23 with 163 passing yards. He had two touchdown passes in the win.

He found Tucker Kraft in the first quarter to get on the board. The two teamed up for an 11-yard touchdown. He threw his second touchdown pass of the day to Malik Heath with 4:14 left in the game. It was more than enough to get the Packers the win.

Green Bay finished with 325 total yards and had 22 first downs on 11 drives.

San Francisco was bitten by the injury bug.

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The 49ers were missing Brock Purdy, Trent Williams and Nick Bosa. Purdy was dealing with a shoulder injury, Williams suffered an ankle injury and Bosa left last week’s game with a hip and oblique issue and didn’t play against the Packers.

Brandon Allen started for San Francisco. It was his first start since January 2022, when he was with the Cincinnati Bengals. It showed.

He was 17-of-29 with 199 passing yards, a touchdown pass to George Kittle and an interception. Kittle had six catches for 82 yards.

Christian McCaffrey failed to get going as he has yet to fully jet out of the gate since his return from his own injury struggles. He had 31 rushing yards on 11 carries. He also had three catches for 37 yards.

Green Bay improved to 8-3 on the season and San Francisco fell to 5-6.

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A man started a new relationship while married to his wife with Alzheimer's. He shared how they're making it work.

21 November 2024 at 08:37
A couple in their 50s/60s standing by a brick wall.
Seven years after Townsend Davis' wife was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer's, he started seeing someone else.

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  • Townsend Davis and his wife had been married for 10 years when she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's.
  • He told The New York Time's Modern Love podcast he started a relationship while caring for his wife.
  • Davis said his new partner felt like an interloper at first, but now the "unorthodoxy" is normal.

Townsend Davis, who lives in Brooklyn, New York, and his wife Bridget had been married for a decade when she was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer's in June 2015.

She was 51, Davis told The New York Times Modern Love podcast.

Nearly 10 years after the diagnosis, Davis started a new relationship with another woman while still caring for his wife. Now, the three of them are navigating an unorthodox life together.

Early signs of memory loss

Davis first noticed something was off in 2013 when Bridget, who was typically organized, started having trouble managing her calendar.

He told the podcast she missed appointments or forgot playdates for their two kids. Her cognition continued to deteriorate and she was diagnosed with early on-set Alzheimer's in 2015.

Alzheimer's is a progressive disorder that affects a person's memory, thinking, and behavior. Around one in nine Americans over 65 live with the condition, but cases in people under 60 are rare.

Around 200,000 Americans are estimated to have early-onset dementia, according to a 2024 report from the Alzheimer's Assocation.

By May 2022, Davis said Bridget confused him for their female housekeeper. "She was not seeing me as her husband," Davis told the podcast.

Shortly after Bridget was diagnosed, she told Davis she wanted him to meet someone else.

He never considered it until he met Deb seven years later.

Seven years into Bridget's diagnosis, Davis met someone

When Davis met Deb, a friend of a friend, he told her that he wasn't dating, although he was lonely.

He told the podcast he was still living with Bridget, but she needed full-time carers who came to the house day and night.

Deb and Davis started hanging out as friends and texting. "I was like, 'Wow, this is fun.' I forgot what this feels like," Davis said.

After a couple of months of "non-dating dating," Davis and Deb's relationship became romantic.

Davis felt "alive and electrified" by the new relationship and said caring for Bridget and dating Deb at the same time was easier than he'd thought.

Davis told the podcast, "I can still do her pillbox. I can still talk to her. I can still hold her hand, do all the things that we do. And I was like, maybe this can work."

Three months later, he told Bridget that he had a new partner but would stay married to her and look after her "until the end."

He said he was unsure if she fully understood but responded, "I think that's a good idea."

Deb found their relationship hard at times

That year, Davis brought Deb to the family Thanksgiving. Bridget was there with her carer and their two sons, William and Teddy. Deb told Davis afterward that she felt like "an interloper."

"She just had these feelings of trespassing on our family tradition," he said. Deb had said she was OK with not getting married, but after Thanksgiving, she admitted the situation was difficult, and their romance felt limited.

"I tried to reassure her," Davis said.

All 3 adults plan to live in the same apartment building

Since that dinner, Bridget and Deb have spent more time together, and their unusual setup seems to be working. "That lack of orthodoxy seems to be something that is very routine for us," Davis said.

Bridget now lives in an apartment in the same building as Davis, who lives in their original place. Davis said that while Deb helped move Bridget, his wife told his new girlfriend she was "a good person."

Davis told the podcast that Deb plans to move in with him after they renovate the apartment to make it feel like a new home.

"I can't imagine my life without either of them, really, at this point," Davis said.

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