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10 celebrities who lived to 100 — and how they did it

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Jimmy Carter lived to 100.

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  • These 10 celebrities made it to 100 years old and have tips on how they did it.
  • Staying mentally and physically active can contribute to making it to triple digits.
  • George Burns took brisk walks and avoided stress; Jimmy Carter credited marrying "the best spouse."

You might expect all Hollywood stars to have outlandish health and wellness routines, but these 10 celebrity centenarians kept it surprisingly simple.

Living to 100 is rare, but those who do tend to have some things in common. Scientists who study aging say that genes play a role in how long a person will live, but lifestyle factors, including diet, exercise, stress, and social connections, play a larger one.

From Jimmy Carter to the Queen Mother, here's what famous people who lived to 100 credit their longevity to.

Norman Lear
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Norman Lear.

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Iconic screenwriter and producer Norman Lear, who died in December 2023 at the age of 101, said that work (and loving his job) is what kept him going.

"Some people run. I don't run. I wake up and do the things that please me. That's my present to myself. That's my prayer. That's everything," he told USA Today as he turned 100 in 2022.

He reiterated this in a chat with the Los Angeles Times in 2020. "When I go to sleep at night," he said, "I have something that I'm thinking. Among other things, it's about something I'm doing tomorrow." He added, "So today is over, and we're on to the next."

There's evidence to suggest that delaying retirement could add years to your life. A 2015 study that followed 83,000 adults over 65 for 15 years, published in the journal Preventing Chronic Disease, found that, compared with people who retired, people who worked past age 65 were about three times more likely to report being in good health.

Jimmy Carter
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Jimmy Carter.

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The 39th president lived to be 100, dying in December 2024, almost three months after his landmark birthday.

He credited one person with helping him live that long: his wife, Rosalynn. They were married for 77 years before her death in 2023.

"It's hard to live until you're 95 years old," he told People in 2019. "I think the best explanation for that is to marry the best spouse: someone who will take care of you and engage and do things to challenge you, and keep you alive and interested in life," he said.

Research suggests that having strong social bonds can help you live longer. A 2021 meta-review published in the journal Frontiers in Psychology found that the link between social support and longevity is as strong as the link between not smoking and longevity.

Bob Hope
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Bob Hope.

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Bob Hope, known for his vaudeville, acting, comedy, and his hosting gig at the Academy Awards a record 19 times, died in July 2003, two months after his 100th birthday.

Back in the '80s, when he was a spry 78, he said he made sure to walk 2 miles every day, no matter where he was, per Men's Health.

He learned this lesson from his grandfather. "When he was 96 years old, he walked two miles to the local pub every day to get a drink. He died within a month of his 100th birthday, and he remained mentally sharp till the very end," said Hope.

There's science to back up their method. A 2024 study published in the British Journal of Sports Science analyzed health and mortality data from the 2019 US Census, the 2003—2006 National Health and Nutritional Examination Survey, and the National Center for Health Statistics. Using a mathematical model, the authors predicted that people who walk for around 160 minutes a day live an average of five years longer than their sedentary peers.

They speculated that if the least active Americans walked for an extra 111 minutes daily, they could live up to 11 years longer.

Dolores Hope
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Dolores Hope.

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Bob Hope lived to be 100, but his wife, Dolores, managed to outlive him. She died in 2011 at the age of 102.

While Dolores didn't publicly share theories on how she made it to triple-digits, her daughters had their own ideas. Her oldest daughter, Linda (who's now in her 90s herself), told ABC7 in 2009: "Laugh a lot. Laughter is something that's been part of our lives, and I have to think that is a large part responsible for their happiness and for their long lives."

Olivia de Havilland
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Olivia de Havilland.

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The "Gone with the Wind" star lived to be an impressive 104 years old. She died in July 2020.

De Havilland, in addition to crediting the "three Ls" (love, laughter, and light) with her longevity, told Vanity Fair in 2016 that she kept her mind sharp by doing The New York Times crossword every single day.

In a 2022 study published in the journal NEJM Evidence, 107 adults with mild cognitive impairment were asked to do an intensive program of web-based crossword puzzles or games for 12 weeks, followed by booster sessions up to 78 weeks. The authors found that 37% of participants in the crossword groups improved by two points on an Alzheimer's scale.

Kirk Douglas
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Kirk Douglas.

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The Hollywood icon and star of films such as "Spartacus" and "20,000 Leagues Under the Sea" lived to 103. He died in February 2020.

Douglas wrote an essay for Newsweek in 2008, when he was 91, about growing old.

"Humor helps longevity," he wrote.

"Try to think of others, try to help them. You will be amazed how that lessens your depression. That satisfaction is priceless," he added. "The greatest dividend to old age is the discovery of the true meaning of love."

Gloria Stuart
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Gloria Stuart.

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Much like her "Titanic" character Rose, Stuart lived to become a centenarian, briefly. She turned 100 in July 2010 and died two months later.

As her 1999 memoir, "I Just Kept Hoping," suggests, Stuart used her career to fuel her into her old age. "I was driven then [in the 1930s], and I'm driven now," she told SF Gate at the time.

After Stuart's death in 2010, NPR host Ari Shapiro added, "Her daughter says that during her long life, her mother did not believe in illness. She paid no attention to it, and it served her well."

Queen Elizabeth, the Queen Mother
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Queen Elizabeth, the Queen Mother.

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The Queen Mother died in 2002 at the age of 101. Clearly, longevity runs in the family, as her daughter, Queen Elizabeth II, lived to be 96 before dying in September 2022.

The Queen Mother had some frank advice for living a long life.

In her official biography, she said, "'Wouldn't it be terrible if you'd spent all your life doing everything you were supposed to do, didn't drink, didn't smoke, didn't eat things, took lots of exercise, and suddenly, one day, you were run over by a big red bus and, as the wheels were crunching into you, you'd say, 'Oh my God, I could have got so drunk last night.' That's the way you should live your life, as if tomorrow you'll be run over by a big red bus."

George Burns
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George Burns.

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The vaudeville star and comedian knew people would be curious about how to live to 100, so he decided to write the book "How To Live To Be 100 Or More."

Burns, who died in March 1996 at 100 years old, told UPI Hollywood, "You'll be happier and live longer if you find a job you love; that way you avoid stress. Never take stress to bed with you. Work on it in the morning."

He also confirmed that he did 45 minutes of exercise every day before taking a "brisk 15-minute walk around the neighborhood." He also had "two or three drinks a day" and always had a cigar close by (though, according to him, he never inhaled). He steered clear of cigarettes, however.

Being active is linked to living longer in better health. A 2022 study published in the British Journal of Sports Medicine found that of 99,713 participants aged 55 to 74, those who did regular aerobic exercise and strength training were 41% less likely to die from any cause in the seven to 10 years after.

"I don't believe a lot of this medical stuff. They say everything you eat and drink causes cancer. Don't pay too much attention to that," Burns added.

Eva Marie Saint
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Eva Marie Saint.

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Saint, the oldest living and earliest surviving Oscar winner, will turn 101 in July 2025.

"I continue to take walks out in the fresh air, like watching baseball — especially the Los Angeles Dodgers, and enjoy time with my family and friends," she told People ahead of her 100th birthday last year.

A 2023 study published in BMC Medicine found that never being visited by friends and family was associated with a 39% increased risk of early death.

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Scoop: Rocket launchers, missiles to be featured in Army's D.C. parade

Army officials are preparing to display rocket launchers and missiles along with more than a hundred military aircraft and vehicles next weekend at the D.C. parade celebrating the Army's 250th anniversary, Axios has learned.

Why it matters: President Trump has envisioned the June 14 parade — which is scheduled on his 79th birthday — as a show of U.S. military might.


Zoom in: Such a display of military equipment is rare in the United States, and critics of the event have expressed concerns about that imagery as well as the damage that heavy military vehicles could pose to the city's streets.

  • But officials are eager to showcase U.S. weaponry such as the High Mobility Artillery Rocket System (HIMARS), which is used to launch rockets.
  • The launchers have been used in Afghanistan, Iraq and Syria.

There also will be a static display of precision-guided missiles, the officials said, and a flyover by F-22 fighter jets.

  • About 7,000 military personnel will be involved in the parade, which will run along Constitution Avenue NW. It's projected to cost about $45 million — roughly one-third of that for post-parade street repairs.

Zoom out: The parade is set to begin at 6:30 pm, and will start at 23rd Street and Constitution Avenue NW and end at 15th and Constitution Avenue NW.

  • Trump will have a review stand on the Ellipse.

What they're saying: "When the president came into office on Jan. 20, he made it clear that he wanted to ... feature the United States Army as the first branch of the United States military to be constituted of the American republic, and he wanted to give the U.S. Army a very special birthday parade," Ambassador Monica Crowley, chief of protocol of the United States, told Axios.

By the numbers: The parade will include 28 M1A1 Abrams tanks, 28 M2 Bradley Fighting Vehicles, and four Paladin Howitzers.

  • There will be eight CH-47 Chinook helicopters, 16 AH-64 Apache helicopters, and 16 UH-60 Black Hawk helicopters, officials said.
  • Flyovers by World War II- and Vietnam-era planes also are planned.

The great poaching: America's brain drain begins

The Trump administration’s spending cuts and restrictions on foreign students are triggering a brain drain — and American scientists are panicking.

Why it matters: U.S. researchers' fears are coming true. America’s science pipeline is drying up, and countries like China are seizing the opportunity to surge ahead.


  • “This is such a race for being the science powerhouse that you never fully recover,” says Marcia McNutt, president of the National Academy of Sciences. “You might accelerate back up to 60, but you can’t make up for those years when you were at a standstill while the competition was racing ahead.”

Driving the news: The National Science Foundation, which funds much of America's fundamental science research, is already doling out grants at its slowest pace in 35 years, The New York Times reports.

  • More cuts to science could come with the "big, beautiful bill."

Universities are also watching with bated breath as the administration tries to limit the number of foreign students studying in the U.S..

  • Harvard is pushing back, but could face a total ban on recruiting internationally. The Trump administration says it will "aggressively revoke" visas for Chinese students studying in "critical fields."

By the numbers: While American universities are rescinding offers to incoming PhD students, other countries are recruiting heavily from U.S. labs.

  • The journal Nature analyzed data from its jobs platform to track where scientists are looking for work. In the first few months of the Trump administration, there were jumps in the the number of U.S. applicants looking for jobs in Canada (+41%), Europe (+32%), China (+20%) and other Asian countries (+39%), compared to the same period in 2024.
  • U.S. jobs saw fewer applications from candidates in Canada (–13%) and Europe (–41%).

Case in point: France's Aix-Marseille University, which made headlines for earmarking millions of dollars for U.S. scientists, closed its application window after receiving a flood of apps.

  • After American Nobel laureate Ardem Patapoutian's federal grant was frozen, he got an email from China offering 20 years of funding if he relocates his lab, The New York Times' Kate Zernike writes. He declined.
  • “This is a once-in-a-century brain gain opportunity,” the Australian Strategic Policy Institute wrote in a brief.

The other side: The White House argues that its changes to the system will usher in a golden age of science and rebuild public trust. President Trump has also suggested that spots freed up by rejecting international students could be filled by American applicants.

  • But professors say this isn't entirely realistic.
  • "In hard sciences, in astronomy and physics and computer science, for example, there’s no way you would fill that hole with local applicants of comparable quality," says Chris Impey, an astronomer at the University of Arizona.

What to watch: “The optimistic part of all of us thinks science is strong enough to outlast one administration, and for a while I thought that, but the hit to young people is at the center of the whole enterprise,” Impey says. “It’s like pulling the rug out from under the whole thing."

  • It's not just brain drain of existing talent, he says. Students who are in high school and college now and thinking about a career in research might reconsider. "There’s plenty of things smart kids can do. They don’t have to go into science."
  • At the same time, McNutt says she tells students: "If you went into graduate school in the fall of this year, by the time you get your PhD, this madness may be over. You come out with your new PhD ready to fill the gap."

I paid $180 to sit in business class on a 9-hour Amtrak ride from Rochester to NYC. Next time, I'll stick to coach.

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I took an Amtrak train to upstate New York.

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  • I took a round-trip Amtrak journey from Manhattan to Rochester.
  • I rode coach on the way there and business class on the way back.
  • I don't think my $180 business-class ticket was worth it.

At the end of May, I took a quick break from the hustle and bustle of New York City to check out life upstate in Rochester, New York.

Rather than schlepping to the airport, I decided to try a more relaxing mode of transportation: an Amtrak train. I'm not an Amtrak newbie, but I'm used to shorter train trips. My journey to Rochester was scheduled to take seven hours, while the return was even longer at nine.

As I prepared to book my tickets, I thought about all the hype I've heard about business and first-class experiences, and I was curious if an upgrade would make the long ride more comfortable.

I purchased a coach ticket for my journey to Rochester and a business-class seat for my return trip to see which was better. Next time, I'll save the money and stick to coach.

I started my journey to Rochester bright and early at Penn Station.
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I traveled from Manhattan to Rochester.

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I booked a coach seat on a 7:15 a.m. train from New York City to Rochester for $69.

I left my apartment in Brooklyn just before 6 a.m. on the Thursday morning my train was scheduled to leave, ensuring I would arrive at Moynihan Train Hall at Penn Station with time to spare.

I sleepily got off the subway and made my way into Penn around 6:40, thrilled I had time to grab a coffee and a breakfast sandwich before I had to board.

As I sipped on my iced latte, that excitement faded. Amtrak delayed the Maple Leaf train I was set to board in ten-minute increments for the next hour. I ended up idling in the hall and checking the boards continually while I waited because I was afraid of missing an update.

I finally boarded the train at 8:10, my coffee dripping condensation on my hand as I lined up with the other coach passengers to get our tickets scanned.

Once I got on the train, I settled myself into a two-seater.
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I got a row to myself.

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I easily found open rows of seats in the car at the front of the train, so I didn't have to sit with a stranger for the long journey.

I popped my roller bag on the shelf atop my seat, dropped my backpack into the chair closest to the aisle, and settled into a window seat.

Looking around the car, I estimated it was about 60% full. I saw other solo travelers, like me, taking two seats for themselves, and pairs of passengers sitting together. The car was mostly quiet, as people snoozed and shared hushed conversations.

The two seats had everything I needed, but the views weren't the best.
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I took advantage of the tray table.

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I loved having plenty of leg room since the bag was in the seat next to me. I even rested my legs on the empty seat for some of the ride.

The tray table was convenient, as I could use it to rest my Kindle or laptop, and I was grateful for the outlet right under the window.

I was excited to have a window seat to check out the New York landscape during the ride, but the views were a bit of a letdown because I was sitting on the right side of the train. I only caught glimpses of the Hudson River if I craned my neck to look at the window across from me.

I was far from the café car but didn't mind stretching my legs.
The café cart on an Amtrak train.
The café car was on the other end of the train.

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I spent my first few hours on the train catching up on some work on my laptop and listening to music in my seat.

I got up a few times to go to the restroom and fill up my water bottle, but I didn't venture out of my car until a little after noon when my grumbling stomach got too loud to ignore.

The café car was at the back of the train, so I walked through several cars to find it. It was nice to have a reason to move my legs after four hours of sitting in the same position, and I liked peeking at the other cars, walking past groups of people dining at the handful of tables in the café car.

I quickly ordered a $9.50 Caesar salad and a $2.50 bag of chips. Because the café was in the caboose, it was bumpier than the rest of the train, so I held onto a railing in the car while I waited for my food.

Little did I know, those bumps would be a harbinger of what was to come on my return journey.

I had a row to myself for the entirety of the ride.
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I got to sit by myself.

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The rest of my trip was uneventful and peaceful. My car stayed pretty quiet throughout the journey, and even as people got on and off, it never got too crowded, so I was able to keep my row to myself.

I spent the afternoon binge-watching "Sirens" on Netflix, and before I knew it, I was arriving in Rochester.

Overall, my coach ride was pretty relaxing.

I upgraded to business class for my return trip to New York City.
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I rode business class on the way back to New York.

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A ticket on the Maple Leaf from Rochester to New York in business class cost me $180.

My business-class ticket included a larger reclined seat with a footrest, extra leg room, and a free non-alcoholic drink. An Amtrak representative also noted to Business Insider that business-class tickets are refundable, and purchases are eligible for a 25% point bonus for Amtrak Guest Rewards.

I arrived at the Louise M. Slaughter Rochester Station on Friday at 1 p.m. for my 1:30 p.m. train. When it was time to board, I found the business-class car at the back of the train, connected to the café.

There was only one seat left when I boarded the train.
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I got the last seat left in business class.

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The Maple Leaf starts its journey to New York from Toronto and makes stops in Niagara Falls and Buffalo before arriving in Rochester. The train's singular business-class car also only has six rows of seats, with one side featuring single seats rather than two next to each other. It wasn't a huge surprise that only one seat was open by the time I boarded.

The lone remaining seat at the front of the car was the accessible seat, so it didn't have a footrest or a traditional tray table. A conductor told me no one had reserved the seat for this trip, but I still felt ill at ease.

As I settled into the comfortable, singular seat, I noticed the car seemed louder than the coach car I had been sitting in during the journey there, likely because of its smaller size.

The location of the business-class car wasn't my favorite aspect of the ride.
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Business class was right next to the café.

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Because the business-class car was in the caboose, it offered a noticeably bumpier ride than the coach car at the front of the train. My seat jostled more easily, and I felt a little nauseated when I looked at my phone screen for too long.

My seat was also right in front of the archway leading to the café, so I could hear everything happening there and in the smaller business-class area.

I was glad I had charged my AirPods ahead of the journey — and that Taylor Swift gave me an excuse to listen to "Speak Now" from start to finish the afternoon of my ride.

Things got a little quieter — and bumpier — when a free seat opened up at the back of the car.
A maroon seat on an Amtrak train.
I got a seat at the back of the car.

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After about an hour and a half, another single seat opened up at the very back of the car, so I gathered my belongings and relocated there.

The train was quieter when I moved because some passengers had gotten off and I wasn't as close to the café. I was happy for the lower volume, swapping my headphones for my Kindle so I could read.

I was also glad to have a back-of-seat tray table again and to use the footrest attached to the chair in front of me, which was particularly comfortable when I leaned my chair back a bit.

However, my new seat was even bumpier than the first chair. I don't usually sleep on transportation anyway, but I definitely wouldn't have been able to snooze with the jolts from the tracks.

The train had an extended stop in Albany, which made me miss my coach seat even more.
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The train stopped in Albany.

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Around 6 p.m., the train rolled into the Amtrak station in Albany, and the conductor announced we would be stopping there until 7:40 so a train from Ontario could connect to ours. The café car closed a few minutes before the stop, and it wouldn't reopen until we were running again.

The extended stop was frustrating, as I was eager to get back to Manhattan. Plus, the lights and AC weren't on most of the stop, so it got hot and stuffy on board.

While we were stopped, most passengers got out to wander around the platform. I used the time to grab some food from a restaurant at the station.

After I ate a subpar chicken wrap, a bag of Skinny Pop, and a granola bar, I spent the rest of the hour walking back and forth across the platform.

I was happy to walk around after sitting for so long, but I would have liked to have the option to nap on a row of seats like I did on my journey to Rochester.

I had my free drink when the train resumed its journey.
A ginger ale can and a cup full of it.
A business-class ticket comes with a complimentary drink.

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Once the café car opened for the final leg of my journey back to New York, I popped over to grab a ginger ale as my complimentary beverage.

It was my only visit to the café during the ride, and I thought the beverage was a nice perk. I had to hold it still because the car was so bumpy, so I downed it quickly to free up my hands.

I also heard an announcement that the train was full after we departed Albany, which made me grateful for my solo business-class seat.

The views were my favorite part of the return journey.
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The Hudson River.

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I could see more of the New York scenery on my way back to Manhattan than I could on the journey to Rochester.

I saw quaint towns, stunning views of the Hudson River, and purple wildflowers lining the tracks. My eyes tracked a man kayaking across the river before the sun set, and I even spotted a deer and her fawn grazing in a field, seemingly oblivious to the train just a few hundred yards away from them.

I finally made it back to Penn Station around 10:40 p.m., smiling as I thought about the sights I had seen on my journey home.

I liked both train rides, but I wouldn't splurge on business class for a trip upstate again.
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I wouldn't pay for business class for a trip to upstate New York.

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I had a pleasant experience on my round-trip ride from Rochester to New York, but I think a coach ticket is the way to go for a trip upstate.

The business-class ticket didn't have enough perks to make the additional cost feel worth it, and sitting in the caboose for nine hours wasn't fun.

It also seemed like the Maple Leaf only gets crowded in coach between Albany and Manhattan, so even if you have to share a row of seats for some of the ride, you'd still have a good chance of sitting alone for part of the journey.

I'll save my business-class tickets for even longer rides or Amtraks that offer full meals. Until then, you can find me in coach.

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When family members died, I struggled to share the news with my kids. Looking at photos helped all of us.

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The author (not pictured) showed her kids photos to deal with the loss of a family member.

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  • My grandparents were very present in my life and helped raise me.
  • When they died, the hardest part was telling my kids about it.
  • I leaned into memories to help my kids process their loss.

I grew up with my grandparents — they raised my brother and me when our parents couldn't.

My grandfather was plagued with health issues throughout his life, almost dying from hydrocephalus when he was a kid. He had a dent in his head and a hole in his finger. These became party favorites at every family event. Gramps would let all the kids feel both the dent and the hole. My grandmother on the other hand was the picture of health, until her 70s when she was diagnosed with late-stage ovarian cancer. It came as a complete shock when she shared the news with me.

For years, my grandparents battled with their health until the summer of 2013, just after the birth of my fourth child. We got the call that things were not good. My grandfather died on July 7 at Mass General Hospital in Boston of heart failure. My grandmother died less than three months later at the exact hour and minute my grandfather had.

The hardest part of their death was having to tell my kids who were very close to Gram and Gramps.

They struggled with the loss

My kids watched my grandparents through their respective health battles. Once, my grandmother fainted during one of their birthday parties, and we had to rush her by ambulance to the hospital. Another time, we spent a Thanksgiving visit wondering if my grandfather would wake up from a cardiac event he endured after surgery for throat cancer.

My kids knew about long-term illness as much as children could. Death was different, though.

My two oldest struggled with the loss. Thankfully, the two youngest were too young to understand. I took the oldest to my grandfather's funeral, thinking it might help them process the loss of a man they had known their whole lives. Bagpipes played as we entered the church, and on the ride home, I listened to my kids cry in the back seat. We stayed in the apartment Gram had shared with Gramps. We ate Chinese food from our favorite place and stared at his seat on the couch that would remain forever empty. My grandmother was in an assisted care facility by this time.

I prepared myself to lose her. The ovarian cancer was progressing. I swore that I would do a better job of explaining her death to the kids.

We looked at photos and shared memories

She passed away as I was driving from my home in Maine to her apartment in Massachusetts. We told the kids on a warm night when I returned. We sat in our sunroom and listened to late fall sounds outside. This time, we had more time to think.

I brought out a photo album, and we talked about her and my grandfather. We told stories. I shared the eulogy I was writing and included them so they would understand how important they were to her. With the death of my grandmother, instead of avoiding the memories like we had with my grandfather's death, we leaned into them. They saved us and became a salve for our grief. We remembered holidays and the way my grandmother always greeted us at the elevator, too excited to wait for us inside her apartment.

In the months and years following the death of my grandparents, we also made sure to remain close to my grandmother's sisters. They became two of the most important people in my kids' lives. Fostering this relationship with them (who we now call "the aunts") was a way of helping them to process and continue to deal with the loss of their grandparents. We visited them in Massachusetts and shared holidays. The aunts have attended my kids' milestone events, standing in for the grandparents who couldn't.

Familial relationships and memories helped my kids in ways that nothing else could. Still, even now as my kids become teens and adults, we remember the early years of their lives, and those memories include my grandparents.

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I lived at home while going to college and commuted to campus. People thought it was a strange decision, but it saved me thousands.

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  • When I decided to live at home while in college, people worried I'd miss the college experience.
  • But I saved thousands on room and board while also working two jobs off campus.
  • Living at home gave me a smooth transition into postgrad life after graduating debt-free.

When choosing a college, I had one requirement: It needed to be close because I wanted to live at home.

Many of my peers were applying to schools as far away as possible, shopping for dorm decor, and making plans to catch up over the holidays. I, on the other hand, was applying within a set radius. I settled on a small private university in the mountains, roughly a 30-minute drive from home.

Despite the proximity, many people assumed I'd still live on campus and were shocked when I told them otherwise. Friends and family were supportive — those who knew me especially well, unsurprised — but their responses were laced with concern.

I was often peppered with questions: Didn't I want to try living at school for at least a year? Wouldn't I be missing out on the "college experience?"

I was unconcerned. I knew what I wanted, and paying thousands upon thousands of dollars to live in a dorm room wasn't it. I believed I could have a far more fulfilling college experience on my own terms — and I was right.

Working off-campus was a priority for me

One of my primary reasons for living off-campus was simple: I wanted to work.

Upon graduating from high school, I was offered a job teaching theatre and dance at the school I'd grown up in. I'd been volunteering with the younger students for years, assisting with classes and productions. Now, being able to do so in an official capacity was an opportunity I wasn't about to pass up.

I also was leading the marketing efforts of a local bookstore — a job I'd held the year prior — and had no desire to give up experience working in my field.

My work required a sizable time commitment, so I chose to stack my full load of college classes between two days every week — Tuesdays and Thursdays. This gave me the freedom to work and maintain off-campus commitments the rest of the week.

Since I would be spending so much time off campus, it felt crazy to pay through the roof only to spend more days away from school than attending it. I was told I'd regret the decision not to be more involved in my university during my college years, but I was determined to choose my own priorities.

My social life thrived

One of the biggest concerns I heard about my decision to live at home was that I'd miss out on the relationships I'd build in college. I countered: Why would I want to solely invest in friendships that would be scattered in four years by the postgrad diaspora when I could have connections all around me?

Still, I made great friends in college. I bonded with fellow digital media majors by working with them at the student magazine. I stayed close to my theatrical roots by joining theatre electives and attending shows, cheering my classmates on.

But I also had the opportunity to make my community my own. Without being tied to college life 24/7, I could stay close to old friends more easily and get to know new people of all ages and walks of life, broadening my world in a way I wouldn't have been able to if entirely confined to campus.

The oldest of three girls, living at home also allowed me to be present for moments with family I would have otherwise missed, like weekly meals with my grandparents and helping my little sisters get ready for prom.

Instead of losing a vital opportunity for community, I was able to build and strengthen relationships that would last long past the college years.

My postgrad life is even better thanks to that early decision

After college, many 20-somethings flounder. It's understandable — for four years, their college campus has been their whole world, and suddenly they're thrust into the unknown.

I had my share of uncertainties, but I didn't feel unprepared. Instead of making college my life, I'd spent college building a life I could love — and putting myself in a great place financially to do so.

I left college debt-free, with more savings than most people my age. But living at home during college was more than just a financial perk; it also set me up to thrive mentally and emotionally.

Since graduating in December 2021, I've gone full-time with my freelance business, traveled with friends, and begun chasing even bigger dreams. I can't wait to see what's next.

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A US Navy warship captain said the Red Sea conflict was a 'knife fight in a phone booth.' China would be way more challenging.

A US Navy warship launches a missile during counter-Houthi operations in March.
US Navy warships launched hundreds of missiles during the Red Sea conflict.

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  • America's conflict with the Houthis gave the US Navy a taste of high-tempo air defense operations.
  • The Navy is using the conflict to inform planning for future maritime wars, like a clash with China.
  • One warship captain said a fight in the Pacific would be vastly different from the Red Sea battle.

The US Navy's exhausting shootout with the Iran-backed Houthis has given American military planners a clearer view into the complexities of high-tempo air defense operations.

The Red Sea conflict, now in the second month of a cease-fire, has been a heavy strain on the Navy, stressing warship crews and draining critical munitions. Though this fight has been a challenge, leaders within the service believe that it is but a taste of what a future war against China, which has far more sophisticated missiles than the Yemeni rebels, would look like.

And it's not just the missiles. Rather, it's a range of factors that would make a China confrontation significantly more difficult, but the Navy is learning key lessons from the Red Sea that it could apply to a future fight.

"In a lot of ways, the Red Sea — it's a knife fight in a phone booth," Cdr. Cameron Ingram, the commanding officer of the USS Thomas Hudner, told Business Insider aboard the Arleigh Burke-class destroyer during a recent underway in the English Channel.

"The geography is extremely tight, and that geography operating that close off of China-controlled territory would be very, very challenging," he said.

"That would be a much more long-distance fight," Ingram said. "Also, their long-range surveillance and tracking is much more advanced. Their intelligence community is much more advanced. And so there are still a lot more complexities and challenges that would make it very difficult in a China fight."

The Arleigh Burke-class guided-missile destroyer USS Thomas Hudner (DDG 116) maneuvers into position during At-Sea Demonstration (ASD) / Formidable Shield (FS) 2025.
USS Thomas Hudner is one of many American warships that battled the Houthis.

US Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist 2nd Class Jonathan Nye

Since October 2023, the Houthis have launched hundreds of missiles and drones at Israel and international shipping lanes off the coast of Yemen, specifically in the Red Sea and the Gulf of Aden.

Navy warships and aircraft operating in the region have shot down many of the Houthi weapons, from drones to anti-ship missiles, in self-defense and in defense of Israel and merchant vessels. Thomas Hudner is one of America's ships with confirmed kills.

These interceptions — sometimes leveraging multimillion-dollar missiles to take down drones worth only thousands of dollars — have strained US stockpiles and raised concerns about readiness for potential future armed conflicts. In the case of China, which has been described as America's "pacing threat," naval air defense capacity is a priority; a potential conflict between the two would likely unfold primarily at sea.

China maintains a formidable arsenal of anti-ship weapons, including ballistic and cruise missiles, that are vastly more capable than what the Houthis have been employing, making it imperative that the Navy has enough interceptor missiles on hand; however, it has already expended hundreds of these battling the rebels.

Ingram said a China war would be challenging and complex for the Navy because of Beijing's advanced weaponry, long-range surveillance and tracking, and intelligence operations.

"That environment will have to be fought at a different level," he explained, adding that it would see engagements at longer distances than what the Navy experienced in the Red Sea.

Lessons learned

An F/A-18E Super Hornet, attached to Strike Fighter Squadron (VFA) 192 launches from the flight deck of the Nimitz-class aircraft carrier USS Carl Vinson (CVN 70) in the U.S. Central Command area of responsibility.
Five Navy aircraft carriers have been deployed to the counter-Houthi fight.

Official US Navy photo

The Navy has learned a great deal about air defense from the Red Sea conflict and tested by unprecedented engagements against dangerous threats such as anti-ship ballistic missiles.

Ingram spoke highly of the Aegis Combat System, which uses computers and radars to help warships track targets and intercept them. He said it has "operated probably better than most of us expected it to, as far as success rates of engagements."

The Red Sea conflict has also informed the Navy about its magazine capacity, reloading capabilities, and munitions inventory. The sea service has changed its firing policy and reconsidered the amount of ordnance warships ought to expend in attempts to neutralize a threat.

A big focus area is trying to drive down the cost ratio for air defense missions. Using a $2.1 million Standard Missile-2 to intercept a $20,000 drone isn't on the right side of that curve, but Ingram argues that it can be worth it to protect a $2 billion warship and hundreds of lives. The challenge, however, is sustainability.

The US and its NATO allies have demonstrated in the Red Sea that they can use cheaper air defense alternatives to take down the Houthi threats. American fighter jets, for instance, used guided rockets. Ingram said the Navy is working to bring the cost difference between threat and interceptor "a little bit closer to parity."

Ingram added that there is increased attention being directed at warships' five-inch deck guns, which have a much deeper magazine capacity than a destroyer's missile-launching tubes and have served as viable means of air defense in the Red Sea.

"If I can stay in the fight longer by shooting five-inch rounds, especially at a drone, maybe I should do that and save my higher-capacity weapons systems for larger threats," he said.

Rearming is another consideration. US warships have to travel to a friendly port with the necessary supplies to get more missiles, which takes up valuable time and keeps vessels off-station for extended periods. This could be a major issue in a high-tempo Pacific conflict. However, the Navy is looking to close the gap with its reloading-at-sea capabilities.

Ingram credited the Red Sea fight as being a resounding air defense success story that could affect China's calculus and military planning. On the home front, the conflict has given the Navy more confidence in its weapons systems and accelerated the development of its tactics, techniques, and procedures.

Ingram said it's difficult to predict what the future will look like, "but I think there are a lot of things that everyone has to consider based on what the Red Sea has been over the last 18-plus months."

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My mother and grandmother have no savings, and I'm bitter that I'll need to support them as they age

a woman frustrated as she surrounded by credit cards and bills
The author is frustrated that she might have to support her mother and grandmother.

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  • My mother had to move in with my family because she had to pay down debts.
  • I'm worried I'll have to support my grandmother eventually, too.
  • I'm frustrated that all of this falls on me, but I know I have no choice but to step up.

I'm 36 and constantly worry about making enough money to support my small family of three: myself, my mother, and her mother.

Nearly three years ago, we made a big decision to help my mother with her expenses by allowing her to move in at 55 years old. My mom had some significant debts to pay down — partly because being single and underpaid in this economy is expensive, but also because my mother has historically been bad at managing her personal finances.

Well, the apple didn't fall far from the tree. My grandmother (my mom's mom) is still working at 76 because she has to. The threat of losing her Social Security keeps me up at night.

If I have to start paying for either of their bills, I don't know what I will do. It frustrates me that I have to prioritize working extra hard and finding work that pays not just well but exceptionally well to mitigate their personal financial situations.

I feel obligated to help my mother and grandmother

My role has quickly changed from what should be a normal parent-child relationship to a financial advisor. I frequently coach my mother into asking for more money at her job or finding a new one that pays more. I also remind her to cut back on expenses and create savings goals.

At this point, I'm doing it for my own self-preservation because if she doesn't, I'll be the one to foot the bill. And I hate it.

What's even more frustrating is that I'm not even on speaking terms with my grandmother. Our estranged relationship has had its ups and downs. She texts a handful of times a year, but we haven't seen each other in person in nearly two years. I could use all of this as reasoning for why I shouldn't be the one to support her, but I know it'll still fall on me.

Checkbook
A check book.

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Even if our relationship isn't great, I know I'm incapable of letting her struggle. I know I'll step in. But that doesn't make me feel proud that I'm capable of doing that; it makes me feel bitter that I was put in the position in the first place.

I want to break the cycle

While I'm highly annoyed by their financial situation, I'm equally (if not more) annoyed by the system that allowed them to fail.

My grandmother was a young, unwed mother with no higher education. My mother, also a young, single mother, didn't get her degree until after I had mine. Education aside, their biggest hardship was and is their lack of financial education.

I hate to admit that I'd most likely be in their same situation if I weren't married to someone who taught me basic financial literacy.

I don't want praise for stepping up. I want a world where women like my mom and grandmother didn't have to rely on their daughters to survive.

I'm doing everything I can to break that cycle, but some days I wonder if I'm just patching holes in a sinking ship — and hoping my daughter never ends up with the same bucket in her hands.

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Musk has money, but Trump has power

Elon Musk might have hundreds of billions of dollars and a social media megaphone, but President Trump's power over the levers of government may put Musk's business empire at much more immediate risk.

The big picture: Virtually everything Musk does has huge regulatory exposure, from cars to spaceflight to neural implants.


  • In a government where norms are already out the window, it would take relatively little for Trump to bring the weight of regulatory burden to bear on Musk's enterprise.

What they're saying: "You just have to understand that if you own Tesla, it will be difficult to sleep at night as investors can scrutinize it from a fundamental standpoint, but also a headline standpoint," said David Wagner, head of equities and portfolio manager at Aptus Capital Advisors, in a commentary Friday.

Zoom out: Trump, thus far, as has played the whole thing relatively cool, saying he doesn't really care if Elon turns on him.

  • But he's also operating from a position of strength, as he clearly knows — thus, the threat on Truth Social to cancel all of Musk's government contracts. When YouGov polled more than 3,800 Americans on that question Thursday, those with an opinion supported ending Musk's contracts by a 2-1 margin.
  • Friday morning, Trump had no hesitation about telling many of Washington's top political reporters he didn't care to speak to Musk — even amid reports Musk very much wanted to speak with him.

How it works: There's a laundry list of ways Trump could squeeze Musk:

  • Terminating contracts for space launches, Starlink Internet access and the like.
  • Ending support for electric vehicle purchases, and the charging infrastructure to power those cars.
  • More regulatory oversight of everything from Tesla's self-driving algorithms to Neuralink's implants.
  • Further housecleaning of the loyalists seeded throughout the government, like the move to withdraw the NASA nominee who was a key Musk ally.
  • The ultimate lever: Security clearances, a favorite Trump tool, and a question that has lingered around Musk for years.

What to watch: How Musk's public position evolves in the coming days, given how incendiary his comments were Thursday and how much Trump appreciates deference.

  • "[T]he public spat was a bad look and seemed desperate in the moment and the stock reacted as such," Zacks Investment Management portfolio manager Brian Mulberry wrote in a note Friday.

The bottom line: The "first buddy" is about to find out how far friendship actually goes.

This corporal's 'reply all' email debacle went viral. When the memes blew up, a top Marine took notice.

The top Sergeant Major of the Marine Corps, Carlos Ruiz, made a surprise visit to Corporal Andrew Hundley's "Corporals Course" graduation ceremony at Camp Johnson, NC, June 5, 2025.
Sgt. Maj. of the Marine Corps Carlos Ruiz made a surprise visit to Cpl. Andrew Hundley's "Corporals Course" graduation ceremony at Camp Johnson, NC, on June 5, 2025.

Cpl Alexander Lesko/US Marine Corps

  • A young Marine's course certificate accidentally made it into thousands of government inboxes.
  • The "reply allpocalypse" spurred a barrage of memes, making the corporal famous.
  • The saga came to an end Thursday with an unexpected surprise.

The Marine Corps is going wild after an email accidentally sent to the entire service resulted in the top enlisted Marine surprising his troops and the young corporal at the center of all of it.

The latest development is the culmination of a story that started in April, when Cpl. Andrew Hundley's boss routed his online course certificate up to colleagues for record-keeping. The message went well beyond the intended recipients.

With the online training out of the way, Hundley, a 24-year-old cyberspace defense operator, could apply for a spot at the follow-on in-person course required for promotion. That course tackles topics like public speaking and military tactics.

But when the staff sergeant hit "send," the senior Marine accidentally unleashed a "reply allpocalyspe," emailing the entire service and more. Reply-alls began flooding inboxes. Almost just as quickly came the memes, which would last for weeks.

"The beacons are lit for Corporal Hundley," according to one meme.
"The beacons are lit for Cpl. Hundley," according to one meme.

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Alarmed, his boss called Hundley to explain his certificate had gone to untold corners of the government.

Cpl Hundley's favorite meme, according to Hundley.
"I think my favorite meme so far has to be the one from Mulan," Hundley told Business Insider.

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"There's been this problem," Hundley recalled her saying to Business Insider. At first he was worried about either of them getting in trouble— the email had made it outside the Corps too, fielding quizzical responses from the Army, Naval Criminal Investigative Services, FBI, and even the White House, Hundley said.

"A lot of them were kind of confused why they were getting the email," he said. Some thought it was a phishing attempt.

Despite the initial stress, Hundley noted that his leaders were quick to assuage his concerns during his rocket to Marine Corps fame and kept tabs on him as the memes kept coming.

A meme marking Cpl. Hundley's course completion after the email went out.
A meme marking Cpl. Hundley's course completion after the email went out.

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A Change.org petition to have the service's chief officer, Commandant Eric Smith, attend Hundley's in-person course graduation took off, picking up over 1,600 signatures. It would be highly unusual for a Beltway-based top leader who oversees around 170,000 troops to attend the graduation for a routine enlisted course.

The commandant didn't show up, but on Thursday, Smith's partner, Sgt. Maj. of the Marine Corps Carlos Ruiz, appeared unannounced, amid both applause and laughter, to present Hundley and his classmates with their graduation certificates.

Hundley managed to snag a photo with the Sgt. Maj. after receiving his course graduation certificate at Camp Johnson, NC, June 5, 2025.
Hundley managed to snag a photo with the sergeant major after receiving his course graduation certificate at Camp Johnson, NC, on June 5, 2025.

Cpl. Alexander Lesko/US Marine Corps

Marine Corps spokesperson Gunnery Sgt. Jordan Gilbert said the petition gave Ruiz a chuckle.

"The Marine Corps gods have called upon me," Ruiz said as he entered the event Thursday. "They were setting up a schedule, and the schedule somehow ended up with — where you at, Hundley? Raise your hand."

A sergeant major serves as a unit's senior enlisted advisor and is the right-hand to the unit's commanding officer— in Ruiz's case, that's Gen. Smith. An enlisted leader may be subordinate in rank to an officer, but they bring decades of experience and function as a team.

Among other things, sergeants major are focused on unit welfare and troop morale — topics on which Ruiz has previously testified before Congress. That may well be why he decided to surprise Hundley and others, undoubtably a morale boost for the Marines.

While attending the April 2025 Modern Day Marine Expo in Washington, DC, free swag from defense industry companies included stickers congratulating Corporal Hundley.
While attending the April 2025 Modern Day Marine Expo in Washington, DC, free swag from defense industry companies included stickers congratulating Cpl. Hundley.

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The email that went out about the corporal was "an unintentional, so innocent email that went to everyone," Ruiz said. But then it went rogue. What triggered the email storm were all the people who replied all, followed by more who replied all asking the first group of people to stop.

"For three or four days, as I traveled the Corps, the question was not about barracks or quality of life," Ruiz said, referring to the service's $11 billion effort to overhaul shoddy barracks.

"It's 'Corporal Hundley!'" he exclaimed. "And that's why the gods have called me to see you graduate."

In an institution that reveres authentic leadership, Ruiz holds a high standing among many, including Hundley, who said that he was at once "amazed, shocked, and terrified" to see Ruiz walk in — he hadn't expected such a senior leader to actually show up.

Ruiz presented the class with their graduation certificates and spoke briefly with Hundley afterward.

"That the Sergeant Major is taking time out of his day, and out of his schedule just to come and see us," Hundley said. "It was an amazing feeling because it shows how much he cares."

Graduation attendees expressed surprised as the Sgt. Maj. of the Marine Corps Carlos Ruiz enters the room at Camp Johnson, NC, June 5, 2025.
Graduation attendees expressed surprise as Sgt. Maj. of the Marine Corps Carlos Ruiz entered the room at Camp Johnson, NC, on June 5, 2025.

Cpl. Alexander Lesko/US Marine Corps

"He most definitely fosters this idea of care for everyone in the Marine Corps," regardless of rank Hundley said of Ruiz.

"And I think that's an amazing leadership trait that anyone can have, having the humility to realize that we're all people and that we all have our own important things that we can offer up."

Having received an overwhelming amount of congratulatory messages from around the world, Hundley said the entire experience has left him feeling humbled and eager to give back to his community. A handful of classmates asked him to sign their course certificates.

Email storms happen every now and then within the US government. In 2007, a Homeland Security Department-based email chain ended up flooding over 2 million inboxes, including those of a nuclear power station in Illinois. More recently, in 2023, the Senate's email system tanked after thousands of staffers replied all to a security drill. The Hundley email debacle, however, might be the military's most amusing one.

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I travel out of state to shop at Trader Joe's for my family. Here are 8 items worth the long round trip.

On the left, invisible gel sunscreen on display at Trader Joe's. On the right, Just the Clusters granola on display at Trader Joe's.
I drive out of state to shop at Trader Joe's.

Carly Trudel

  • My home state of Wyoming doesn't have a Trader Joe's, so I drive to Colorado for my favorite items.
  • The trip is 57 miles each way, but I pick up things I'm unable to get at my local supermarkets.
  • I fill my shopping cart with staples like pappardelle pasta, Alfredo sauce, and sunscreen.

Wyoming has a lot to offer. One thing it doesn't have, though, is Trader Joe's.

Although I can get pretty much everything I need from local grocery stores, there are a few special items I travel 57 miles to buy at a Trader Joe's location in Colorado.

Here are eight things I cross state lines to buy at the grocery chain.

I always grab a bag of Piñata apples when they're available.
A bag of Piñata apples on the shelf at Trader Joe's.
I love the tropical flavor of the Piñata apples.

Carly Trudel

Although they're not as sweet as my favorite Honeycrisps, I love grabbing a bag of Piñata apples from Trader Joe's. They have a nice tropical flavor and come in a large, 5-pound bag.

They never last long in my house, so I always hope they'll still be available on my next shopping trip.

Trader Joe's sunscreen doesn't feel greasy.
Bottles of invisible gel sunscreen on the shelf at Trader Joe's.
Trader Joe's invisible gel sunscreen is lightweight, scent-free, and kid-approved.

Carly Trudel

I never wore sunscreen as a kid, mostly because of the smell and greasy feel on my skin.

As a mom, though, I always have to make sure my kids are sufficiently protected from UV rays, which means I constantly have my hands covered in sunscreen. However, I don't mind it as much when it doesn't smell or feel greasy.

Trader Joe's has a great line of health and beauty products, and I especially love the invisible gel sunscreen. I find that it soaks in quickly after application, and I can't even tell by the smell that it's been applied.

Just the Clusters vanilla almond granola makes the perfect snack.
Bags of Just the Clusters vanilla almond granola on the shelf at Trader Joe's.
Just the Clusters granola makes a tasty snack and a nutritious breakfast.

Carly Trudel

Trader Joe's Just the Clusters vanilla almond granola is so tasty that I almost forget how nutritious it is.

I typically buy more than one bag at a time because I either eat handfuls of it as a snack, or with milk for breakfast. It also adds a great crunch to Greek yogurt.

Trader Joe's Alfredo sauce is a hit with the whole family.
Jars of Alfredo pasta sauce on the shelf at Trader Joe's.
Trader Joe's Alfredo sauce is perfect for busy nights and picky eaters.

Carly Trudel

This Alfredo sauce has a nice blend of Parmesan and Romano cheese flavors. Even my picky child eats it without complaining.

I like to brown some chicken and simmer it in the Alfredo sauce with broccoli and pasta. The whole process is quick and results in a quick dinner that everyone will eat.

Pappardelle is the perfect base for pasta dishes.
Bags of pappardelle pasta on the shelf at Trader Joe's.
The pappardelle noodles cook quickly and soak up every bit of sauce.

Carly Trudel

These wide noodles cook quickly and pair well with any sauce. I only wish they came in a bigger package.

Trader Joe's glazed vanilla-bean scones are surprisingly tasty.
Packages of glazed vanilla-bean scones on the shelf at Trader Joe's.
Trader Joe's glazed vanilla-bean scones are delicious.

Carly Trudel

I grew up with a mom who baked, so I don't usually like store-bought desserts. However, I gave Trader Joe's glazed vanilla-bean scones a chance, and now they're one of my go-to treats.

My husband loves the Trader Joe's cheddar jalapeño pull-apart bread.
Packages of cheddar jalapeño pull-apart bread on the shelf at Trader Joe's.
I buy two packages of cheddar jalapeño pull-apart bread and freeze one.

Carly Trudel

My husband and older son both love spicy foods, so I like to get them Trader Joe's cheddar jalapeño pull-apart bread.

It's not super spicy, but it has a nice kick. I usually buy at least one extra package to freeze, since they typically polish off the first one within days.

Trader Joe's pizza crust makes dinner easy.
Packages of pizza crust on the shelf at Trader Joe's.
Trader Joe's pizza crust helps me whip up a fun, homemade meal in no time.

Carly Trudel

Homemade pizza is a fun, quick, and easily customizable dinner.

Trader Joe's pizza crust, which can be found in the bakery section, is sturdy enough to hold lots of cheese and toppings.

Click to keep reading Trader Joe's diaries like this one.

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How to dismiss a high-profile employee without a Trump-Musk-style meltdown

Elon Musk
Breaking up with a high-profile employee doesn't have lead to a public spat.

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  • The fallout between President Trump and Elon Musk underscores how dicey it can be to dismiss a high-profile recruit.
  • When pushing out A-list talent, employers should frame the person's departure as business as usual.
  • Employers may cut ties with flashy new recruits that turn out to be a poor cultural fit.

Star talent can be hard to retain — and even harder to let go.

The public fallout between President Donald Trump and Elon Musk this week may be an extreme example of a hotshot's exit going off the rails, but leadership experts said it underscores just how dicey it can be to part ways with a high-profile team member.

"These are folks with big egos," Peter Cappelli, a management professor at the University of Pennsylvania's Wharton School, told Business Insider. "Most of the time they end up in court."

Saying goodbye to a prominent employee doesn't have to be dramatic. But don't assume a beefy severance package and a non-disparagement agreement are enough to leave a company unscathed.

"If people want to hurt you, they'll find a way to do it," Cappelli said. "Ask divorced couples."

How to sever ties with a high-profile recruit

When pushing out a high-flyer, employers should frame the person's departure as business as usual, said Ronald Placone, a communications professor at Carnegie Mellon University's Tepper School of Business

"You try to normalize it," he said. "Things happen, people move on."

Trump initially followed conventional wisdom in how he went about booting Musk from Washington last month. The president orchestrated a warm and fuzzy public send-off, thanking Musk for his service and providing a sensible explanation for his departure—in this case, that the billionaire was going back to focusing on his work at the multiple companies he helms.

More common explanations are that the fired individual has decided to pursue other career opportunities, spend time with family, or engage in philanthropic endeavors. This tactic is aimed at protecting both the departee's reputation and that of the employer showing him or her the door.

"They come up with a story," said Anna A. Tavis, chair of the human capital management department at New York University's School of Professional Studies.

The goal is to avoid hurting the outgoing hotshot's chances of landing a new gig and the company's ability to find a replacement.

"It's a question of, how do we save face?" she said.

Give people something else to talk about

Employers should also aim to draw people's attention elsewhere, Placone said.

"One of Trump's strategies that often works is you just flood communication channels with other stuff, stuff you perceive is more favorable to your organization," he said. "You try to take some control by giving as many potential stories as possible so people don't home in on one."

Trump did make some big announcements this week, including travel bans on several African countries, but leadership experts say the president also erred by openly rebuking Musk's harsh criticism of his signature tax bill on X. This kicked off the back-and-forth squabble that captured the world's attention on Thursday.

"There's no need for that," Placone said. "In these high-profile situations, you want to say as little as possible. You don't want to add weight to the argument the other is putting forth."

If Trump instead kept quiet, Musk would have been more likely to stick with critiquing the bill rather than upping the ante by accusing the president of illicit behavior, he said.

"It would've eventually fizzled out," Placone said.

Why some A-list hires don't last

Employers most commonly end up quickly sacking flashy new recruits because they aren't as talented as advertised or they insist on working in a way that doesn't align with a company's culture, Tavis said.

It even happens at the very top of the corporate ladder. For example, in recent years, the chief executives of Barnes & Noble, Starbucks, and CNN were pushed out of their jobs after brief tenures.

"A lot of times they're overestimating their value," she said of people with a reputation for being above the fray, adding that due to the current tight labor market, notable departures are likely to increase.

Sam Faycurry, CEO of artificial-intelligence and nutrition startup Fay in San Francisco, can relate. Last year, he hired a well-known rainmaker after a lengthy courtship only to quickly conclude that the person wasn't a good fit.

To avoid bad blood, Faycurry said he tried making it seem as if it was the individual's decision to leave by pointing out how much they disagreed on core principles.

"This person ended up exiting themselves" without any hard feelings, Faycurry said, adding that he was relieved because his main concern was being able to refill the position with a better-aligned A-list professional.

"If the person is influential in a talent pool you want to recruit people from in the future, there's no benefit to having a relationship fall out," Faycurry said. "You're never truly parting ways."

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