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Chrissy Teigen Says Social Media Apps Should be 'Cut Off' Amid TikTok Drama

Chrissy Teigen has come up with a plan to change how we all interact with social media — herself included.

In a series of videos shared on Saturday, January 18, Teigen, 39, discussed the drama surrounding the recent TikTok ban. 

“Let’s talk TikTok. Everyone is bummed. ‘OMG, it’s going to be shut down,’” the social media star said via Instagram. “It’s on a hiatus for now. It’s going to come back.”

In a following video, the model suggested that the government shut off social media from 6 p.m. to 6 a.m. each day. “I come from the days where we had nothing and then we saw something,” she explained, referring to all social media apps in general. 

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“Guys, life was great,” she continued. “Life was awesome before this. I know it’s hard to see it now, but it’s doable. It’s very doable. This doesn’t have to be our lives.”

“And I say this for myself as well because — obviously — I’m on here [social media] right now doing this,” she continued. “But it doesn’t have to define us or be our whole lives.”

Teigen’s videos were posted hours after TikTok “went dark” ahead of the nationwide ban set to begin Sunday, January 19. Users in the United States who attempted to open the app were met with a message that read, “Sorry, TikTok isn’t available right now. A law banning TikTok has been enacted in the U.S. Unfortunately, that means you can’t use TikTok for now.”

Service was restored in the U.S.  on Sunday, January 19. “In agreement with our service providers, TikTok is in the process of restoring service,” TikTok explained in a statement shared via social media.

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“We thank President Trump for providing the necessary clarity and assurance to our service providers that they will face no penalties providing TikTok to over 170 million Americans and allowing over 7 million small businesses to thrive,” the statement continued. “It’s a strong stand for the First Amendment and against arbitrary censorship. We will work with President Trump on a long-term solution that keeps TikTok in the United States.”

The app stopped working for users in the United States a few hours before midnight on the following day. Prior to and in the few hours during the black out, numerous celebrities spoke out about the ban.

Singer Kesha jokingly reminded her followers that her hit 2010 single “Tik Tok” would always be available for them no matter what happened to the app by the same name. In a video shared via Instagram on Saturday, the singer wore a black hoodie and closed her eyes while part of her 2010 hit song played. Over the video, she wrote, “TikTok may be temporary, but TiK ToK is forever,” adding both a peace sign and black heart emoji. The song was an instant hit when it debuted, spending nine weeks at the top of the Billboard Hot 100 chart.

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Glenn Close Says One Movie Made Audiences Realize She 'Could Be Sexy'

Glenn Close has pinpointed the movie that she believes made audiences finally realize she could be more than Cruella de Vil — her 1978 film Fatal Attraction.

“I think it was the first time people realized I could be sexy,” Close, 77, said during an interview with Today’s Willie Geist on the Sunday, January 19 episode of Sunday Sitdown.

The movie stars Close as Alex Forrest, a woman who starts an affair with Dan Gallagher (Michael Douglas). She becomes steadily more and more mentally unstable as it becomes clear he’s trying to end the relationship, ultimately to her demise.

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The film began as the short Diversion before it was developed into a feature-length production by writer-director James Dearden. It spent eight weeks at No. 1 in the box office and was the second-highest-grossing film in 1987, falling short of Three Men and a Baby. Fatal Attraction earned more than $157 million domestically and earned six Academy Award nominations, including for Close.

In addition to reminiscing on her storied Hollywood career, Close has recently opened up about her personal life. While appearing on  The Drew Barrymore Show on Monday, January 13, the actress was asked if she’s dated since her 2015 divorce from David Shaw. (The pair were married for nine years.) Close revealed that not only has she been single the entire time, she is “very happy right now.”

After host Drew Barrymore asked if Close has tried any dating apps, she replied, “Are you crazy?” before she added, “No, I’m too shy to do that.”

Close also said she’s not especially interested in finding a relationship. “I’m not searching,” she added. “Because I’m actually, I’m not a hugely, comfortably, social person, so I don’t leap to go to a party.”

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Prior to her marriage to Shaw, Close was married to James Marlas from 1984 to 1987 and Cabot Wade from 1969 to 1971. She also shares daughter, Annie Starke Albu, with ex-boyfriend John Starke.

The actress went on to star in several critically acclaimed films following Fatal Attraction, including Dangerous Liaisons, The Wife, Hillbilly Elegy, Air Force One and 101 Dalmations. She also earned an Emmy Award for the 1995 TV movie Serving in Silence: The Margarethe Cammermeyer Story.

Close has yet to win an Academy Award for acting, despite having been nominated eight times throughout her career. In 2021, she told Variety that she’s not too upset about having lost out. “It’s beyond me. I don’t know what to say about that,” she explained. I just have to keep doing what’s good. You’re fulfilled by your work, and that’s the process to me. It’s what feeds my soul, but it really is nice when other people like it. It might be cool to never get one.”

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TikTok Restores Service in the U.S. Despite Law, App Announces

TikTok Restores Service Despite Law App Announces
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TikTok is “restoring service” to users in the United States following a brief ‘blackout,’ the app announced on Sunday, January 19 via a statement shared on social media. “In agreement with our service providers, TikTok is in the process of restoring service.”

“We thank President Trump for providing the necessary clarity and assurance to our service providers that they will face no penalties providing TikTok to over 170 million Americans and allowing over 7 million small businesses to thrive,” the statement continued. “It’s a strong stand for the First Amendment and against arbitrary censorship. We will work with President Trump on a long-term solution that keeps TikTok in the United States.”

On Friday, January 17 the Supreme Court issued an unanimous ruling to uphold the Protecting Americans from Foreign Adversary Controlled Applications Act, which banned the app nationwide.

“I join all but Part II.A of the Court’s per curiam opinion. I see no reason to assume without deciding that the Act implicates the First Amendment because our precedent leaves no doubt that it does,” wrote Justice Sonia Sotomayer in her judgment. “TikTok engages in expressive activity by ‘compiling and curating’ material on its platform.”

The app stopped working for users in the United States a few hours before midnight on Saturday, January 18. Prior to and in the few hours during the black out, numerous celebrities spoke out about the ban. 

Singer Kesha jokingly reminded her followers that her hit 2010 single “Tik Tok” would always be available for them no matter what happened to the app by the same name. In a video shared via Instagram on Saturday, January 18, the singer wore a black hoodie and closed her eyes while part of her 2010 hit song played. Over the video, she wrote, “TikTok may be temporary, but TiK ToK is forever,” adding both a peace sign and black heart emoji. The song was an instant hit when it debuted, spending nine weeks at the top of the Billboard Hot 100 chart. 

Kylie Kelce also commented on the looming ban. “There’s something that’s been weighing on me heavily over the past few days,” Kelce said on the January 16 episode of her “Not Gonna Lie” podcast. “It looks like my favorite app, TikTok, might actually be going away for good. Hopefully, it doesn’t, and I can doom-scroll until the end of time. But, just in case, I want to properly pour one out for TikTok.”

“I think everyone loses,” Marc D’Amelio said in ABC News Studios’ IMPACT x Nightline special from May 2024. “I think small business loses. I think the politicians lose also.”

Marc and his wife, Heidi D’Amelio, are the parents to social media mavens Dixie and Charli, whose online dances went viral in 2020 amid the coronavirus pandemic.

“We didn’t call ourselves the first family of TikTok,” Marc, 56, added in the ABC News special. “It’s hard to believe that many people sat and watched a video. I think the ability to turn someone who’s obscure into an overnight, famous person, I don’t think there’s any other platform like that.”

Kesha Says Her Song 'Tik Tok' is Forever as the App Prepares to 'Go Dark'

Kesha is trying to keep things light for fans who are worried about the looming ban on TikTok in the U.S. — by reminding them that her single “Tik Tok” will always be there.

The singer shared a video via Instagram on Saturday, January 18, featuring herself wearing a black hoodie and closing her eyes while part of her 2010 hit song played. Over the view, she wrote, “TikTok may be temporary, but TiK ToK is forever,” and added both a peace sign and black heart emoji.

The song was an instant hit when it debuted, spending nine weeks at the top of the Billboard Hot 100 chart. 

Kesha performed the song in Oakland, California, in 2023, where she changed the opening line of the song from, “Wake up in the morning feeling like P. Diddy” to “Wake up in the morning feeling just like me.” The lyric swap came after Cassie (real name Cassandra Ventura) filed a lawsuit against Diddy in November 2023,, accusing the rapper of sexual assault and abuse. Diddy has denied all allegations against him. 

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Since Cassie’s lawsuit, many others have also come forward with allegations against the disgraced music mogul. Diddy has continued to deny the allegations against him, and is currently incarcerated at the Metropolitan Detention Center in New York.

During her 2024 Coachella set, Kesha changed the opening line of her song again, this time to, “Wake up in the mornin’ like f—k P. Diddy.” In May of the same year, she confirmed the lyric swap was permanent after she was approached by TMZ at LAX airport.

“Yes, it will be, so the fans should learn it for my upcoming shows. I want to hear it louder than ever,” she said. “I stand by that.”

“I’m not the kind of person that just shuts the f— up, I know what I stand for, I know my integrity is rock solid so I speak the truth,” Kesha continued. “And the industry can kind of like suck my d—.”

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As for the social media app of the same name, the Supreme Court has upheld the U.S. government’s proposed TikTok ban, and the app’s owners ByteDance have pledged to make the app inaccessible for users in the United States beginning at midnight Sunday, January 19.

The Protecting Americans from Foreign Adversary Controlled Applications Act was proposed after Congress expressed worries about espionage on behalf of China by ByteDance. The company has said they will remove TikTok from smartphone app stores. The parent company later explained on Friday that they will cut off services and “go dark” unless the U.S. assures Apple and Google that they won’t be penalized for hosting and distributing TikTok.

The loss of the app will have a major impact on content creators and influencers who earn income through the TikTok Creator Fund, as well as those who earn revenue through brand sponsorships and by selling merchandise on the platform.

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Chris Martin and Dakota Johnson Visit Temple in India Amid Breakup Rumors

Chris Martin and Dakota Johnson are seeing the sights while in India — and continuing to put any rumors that they’ve split to rest.

Martin, 47, and Johnson, 35, were filmed participating in a religious ceremony at Mumbai’s Hindu house of prayer Babulnath Temple. In one video shared online on Friday, January 17, Martin breaks out into a smile after he realizes he is being filmed. In a second, also posted on Friday, Johnson is shown whispering a wish into a Nandi bull statue.

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The pair, who have been engaged since March 2024, are in the country for a series of performances by Martin’s band Coldplay, putting rumors they broke up to rest when they were spotted walking together in Mumbai Friday. Martin and Coldplay will play a spate of shows in Mumbai through January 21 before moving on to Ahmedabad, India, for two more shows. The band will then play shows in China and South Korea in April before returning to the United States in May.

A rep for Johnson shot down additional breakup rumors in August 2024 after the Daily Mail reported the pair had ended their engagement. “The reports are not true,” the rep explained. “They are happily together.”

In the wake of their March 2024 engagement, the happy couple chose not to make a big public announcement.

“Chris and Dakota have been engaged for a while now, but they’re not the type to make some huge public announcement because they try to keep their relationship as private as possible,” a source told Us Weekly at the time. “They’re not in a huge rush to get married and don’t have a final wedding date set just yet.”

The insider also said that the pair intend to have Martin’s children, Apple and Moses, at their wedding, as well as his ex-wife Gwyneth Paltrow. “Dakota and Gwyneth have grown very close over the years and they consider themselves family at this point. One of the most important things to Chris is how beautifully Dakota fits into the lives of him and his children,” the source explained.

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In the same month, Johnson told Bustle how proud she was of Martin, especially when watching him perform live. “I love watching him. I could watch him every day. I don’t know how to explain it,” she said at the time. “I feel like, I don’t know … I’m watching my most favorite being do his most favorite thing. When people are really good at things, it is [sexy.]”

Us exclusively confirmed in December 2017 that Johnson and Martin were dating two years after his divorce from Paltrow was finalized (the pair were married from 2003 to 2014).

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My Super Sweet 16’s Cher Hubsher Gopman Claims She Wasn't Paid for Episode

My Super Sweet 16 Alum Cher Hubsher Gopman Claims She Wasnt Paid for Her 2007 Episode
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Cher Gopman, previously known by reality TV fans as Cher Hubsher, made a name for herself after appearing on the MTV series My Super Sweet 16 in 2007 — but she’s just now speaking out about her alleged experience on the show. 

In a TikTok video shared on Saturday, January 18, the reality television alum claimed she was never paid a single cent for her time on the show.

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In the social media post, Gopman mouths along with audio that says, “Since we’re all going to die, there’s one more secret I feel I have to share with you.” She then gestures at a photo of herself on the series and a caption that reads, “Since TikTok is getting banned I’ll tell you how much money I made being on MTV’s My Super Sweet 16.” She then mouths “Zero” as “$0” flashes on screen. 

Gopman’s episode aired January 15, 2007. Her appearance on the popular reality series helped pave the way for her to land a series of small acting parts on TV shows, including The Amityville Terror, Blind Thoughts, and Small Fish

The show wasn’t Gopman’s only foray into reality television, either. She and her mother, Dawn Hubsher, joined the cast of sMothered in 2019 ahead of her daughter’s birth the same year. 

 

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After working in  healthcare for several years before becoming a life coach and social media personality, Gopman has amassed nearly 400,000 followers on TikTok, where most of her content is originally shared. 

Gopman has been an outspoken supporter of the platform, which is set to go dark in the United States on Sunday, January 19, after the Supreme Court TKTKTK. On Friday, January 17, she shared a video featuring herself and her young daughter at the airport and captioned it, “Us moving to China since TikTok is getting banned.” 

After a commenter noted that TikTok is also banned in China, Gopman shared a second video on Saturday that also featured her mother. “Us leaving America since Tiktok is getting banned,” she wrote

Gopman and her mother are the co-authors of the 2019 book A Bond That Lasts Forever. In an interview for the book, Gopman told Tinseltown Mom, “My mom and I have always been close. Of course we had our ups and downs like any mother and daughter relationship and we got in our fair share of arguments during my teenage years, however it is how we got through the tough times that made us so much stronger.”

She also credited her mother with helping her find her voice as a young woman and instead often asked her opinion on different topics. “It made me realize that I had a voice and that she cared about it. She always wanted to spend quality time with me, which made me feel very special early on,” she explained. 

My Super Sweet 16 aired on MTV from January 2005 to May 2017.

Designer Stephanie Gottlieb Shares How Taylor Swift Got Her ‘87’ Necklace

Having Taylor Swift rock a custom ‘87’ necklace to the 2024 Super Bowl was “obviously a highlight of my career,” jewelry designer Stephanie Gottlieb said on the “Conversations with Cam” podcast Wednesday, January 15. 

“That was kind of this new phase of celebrity, which is through PR,” she continued. The early days of her career were “completely organic,” she continued — a shift from how she’s approached now. 

“My PR team has their relationships and they’re communicating with stylists all the time, and we have ideas that we’re pitching to PR to say, ‘Okay, we want to work with so-and-so and here’s an idea for a piece of jewelry,’” she added, “and that’s what happened in that case.”

Swift famously wore the diamond and yellow gold necklace to last year’s big football game. She paired the necklace with a diamond tennis choker also by Gottlieb. 

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The necklace, of course, was a nod to Swift’s boyfriend Travis Kelce, who wears number 87 for the Kansas City Chiefs. The back-to-back Super Bowl champs are expected to make their third consecutive appearance at this year’s Super Bowl. If they win, they’ll become the first NFL team to ever win three consecutive championships. 

 

 

“My president is a huge Chiefs fan, so she was watching the games last December,” Gottlieb  explained during the same interview. “[They] texted me on a Sunday night and was like, ‘If you want to do your varsity lettering … we need to do it now, and you need to make one for Taylor and send it to her.” 

The team had no idea if Swift would like the necklace, and the singer’s stylist made it clear that she couldn’t make any promises. “And then at 2 p.m. the day of the Super Bowl, I see a blurry screen grab from TV of her walking through the tunnel wearing the necklace, and it was just the most wild flurry of things.”

In an interview on The Stephen A. Smith Show on Wednesday, January 15, Kelce told the show’s host that the singer is a big reason why he’s still enthusiastic about football. “She’s fully encouraging me to enjoy playing this game,” he said. “She loves coming to Arrowhead [Stadium] and coming to the games and cheering for me, so I got all the support in the world to keep chasing these dreams.”

“That’s why I wanted to be at [her] concerts supporting her and being there for her, making sure she feels comfortable and supported in everything she’s doing in life,” he added. 

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Ariana Grande Reacts to Rumors She’s Playing Audrey Hepburn

Could Wicked star Ariana Grande take on the role of Audrey Hepburn in an upcoming biopic? If you ask the actress herself, the answer is probably not. 

Grande was asked the question while speaking to Access Hollywood at the National Board of Review’s annual gala Tuesday, January 7. “Oh my goodness, why is everyone asking me this? You’re insane!” she answered. “You’re insane, you’re insane, you’re insane. You’re insane. I love you.”

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The idea was proposed after the interviewer noted Grande was “kind of channeling” the Breakfast at Tiffany’s star with her fashion choice. 

Grande admitted she’s “always loved old-Hollywood glamour” and that both Hepburn and Marilyn Monroe “have always been my references.” 

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“I’ve always gravitated toward ’50s, ’60s silhouettes, and retro vintage … I can’t even think of a time when that wasn’t my vision board. But it’s been more fun to have more places to really do that,” she added. “My stylist, Mimi [Cuttrell], and I have been leaning all the way in.”

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Rumors that Grande could take on the role of Hepburn were indeed sparked in part thanks to Givenchy. After the actress wore a yellow gown from the designer to the Golden Globes this week, the fashion house noted in a release, “The dress is pale-yellow silk with a hand-beaded bodice … from the epic Givenchy Haute Couture/Audrey Hepburn era … one of the most important unions between a designer and muse.”

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A planned Hepburn biopic was announced in 2022 with actress Rooney Mara attached to star. Mara has since told Deadline the movie is “not completely dead” but director Luca Guadagnino is no longer attached. 

Grande will next be seen in Wicked: For Good, the second part of the John Chu-directed film. The movie will land in theaters November 21, 2025. Cynthia Erivo, Jonathan Bailey, Jeff Goldblum, Michelle Yeoh, Ethan Slater and Marissa Bode will all reprise their original roles in the second film.

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Timothée Chalamet Gives Sports Radio Host the Ultimate Surprise

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Timothée Chalamet just made one Bob Dylan megafan’s dreams come true — but he might have caused a little family discord in the process.

 

On Wednesday, January 8, sports radio host Chris “Mad Dog” Russo told his followers on social media that he’d been invited to the London premiere of Chalamet’s new Dylan biopic A Complete Unknown after the star slid into his DMs.

 

Russo, 65, a longtime Dylan fan who hosts his own Sirius XM sports radio show,  had spent the weeks ahead of the event sharing his frustration at being left off of the film’s press run. He told listeners that he even reached out to Chalamet’s father in an attempt to have the actor guest on his show and talk about Dylan’s music.

 

Despite those ups and downs, Russo’s efforts were ultimately successful. After Russo went on a lengthy rant about the upcoming premiere on Tuesday, January 7, Chalamet, 29, an avid sports fan, shared the clip and wrote in his Instagram Stories, “We gotta get Mad Dog a ticket to Paris or London or Rome premiere!!!!”

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The next day Russo, who frequently appears on ESPN’s First Take, told cohost Stephen A. Smith that Chalamet had come through. “How about yesterday?” he said. “I go to Cablevision. You ready? I go to Cablevision and return a box. I get a phone call from [Jeff Saturday’s agent] Jill, your agent. She says, ‘Chris, you’re not gonna believe this.’ I says, ‘What’s that?’ ‘Mr. Chalamet called Searchlight, who called us and offered you two tickets to one of those premieres next week in Europe.”

 

Russo decided to take his daughter, Kiera, who will celebrate her birthday the day after the movie’s January 14 premiere in London, as his plus one. This decision prompted another outburst — this time from Chris’ son, Colin, who went off on his own rant about his dad on his show “Russo & Rizzo.”

Travis Kelce Gives Insight Into His Ideal Season for a Wedding

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Travis Kelce might be head over heels for girlfriend Taylor Swift, but that doesn’t mean he’s automatically willing to possibly walk down the wedding aisle during football season. 

During the Wednesday, January 8, episode of his hit podcast “New Heights,” Travis, 35, and his brother Jason Kelce answered an inquiry about fall weddings as part of their “No Dumb Questions” segment. 

 “I actually don’t know people who’ve gotten married in the fall, because the all the weddings I’ve been to — my friends always do it in the summer,” the tight end said in response to a caller who revealed his girlfriend wants to get married in the fall despite his insistence that he is “gonna be at a football game.”

“You guys gotta be more in sync on things,” Travis added, voicing his concern for the caller’s relationship dynamic and willingness to find common ground. “You gotta be willing to, you know, find a weekend where the team isn’t playing anybody good.” 

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The Super Bowl champ went on to say that he’s “seen weddings in f–king February, I’ve seen weddings everywhere, but the fall… I’m not so sure if the fall is a good wedding season.”

Though Travis and Swift have been mum about their own relationship plans, others in their orbit have been only too happy to chime in on where they think the pair’s romance is headed. 

In an interview with The Mirror published Friday, January 3, former NFL corner and pro-bowler Adam “Pacman” Jones said Travis and Swift “are going to get married” this year, “after football.” 

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Jones also took issue with the conspiracy theory that the pair are not in a “real” relationship. “I think they are in a real relationship,” he said. “I know Trav, because he went to UC. His love [is genuine]. When he says he is with somebody, he is with somebody.” 

Of Travis’ most recent ex-girlfriend, Jones added that “he was with her and he found something better and he moved on.”

Elsewhere in the interview, Jones also praised the two for how their relationship has elevated Travis’ position on and off the field. “I love it,” he said. “I wish I was that smart when I was young. What I’m saying is you see how many marketing deals he is getting. You see how many jerseys he’s selling.”

Travis and Swift were first linked in September 2023, after the “Anti-Hero” singer was photographed at a Kansas City Chiefs game. In an interview for TIME’s Person of the Year, Swift, 35, opened up about her relationship for the first time.

This all started when Travis very adorably put me on blast on his podcast, which I thought was metal as hell,” she said at the time. “We started hanging out right after that. So we actually had a significant amount of time that no one knew, which I’m grateful for, because we got to get to know each other. By the time I went to that first game, we were a couple.”

I use the term 'partner' when speaking about my boyfriend. I didn't expect it to be a controversial label.

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  • After my divorce, I fell for a man quickly, and the word "boyfriend" didn't fit.
  • When we went to Europe, everyone was referring to their significant others as their "partner."
  • I decided to use that term, too, but people in the US often get confused.

I ended my nearly 13-year marriage in January 2020 without any interest in dating. But I met someone new in September, and we started seeing each other two months later.

Before things got serious, I wasn't sure how to describe our relationship. My ex-husband was also my first long-term relationship. We "dated" for three months, and I moved into his home three days after we met. We then quickly got married. In many ways, I had always been a wife who had a husband.

So, with my new situationship, I had no idea how to label it. While we were only in the early stages of seeing one another, I was already deeply committed. We even signed a lease together a few months later, in March. But I didn't know what to call the man in my life, who I considered the man in my life.

Ultimately, we decided to call each other "partners," but not everyone liked that term.

The word 'partner' felt right for us

When he suggested "partner," I liked how it felt. A partner is someone who walks through life side-by-side with you and who has your back in your highest and lowest moments. A partner is your rock. The word "partner" feels adult and right to me.

I stumbled over the word at times, especially early on, because up to that point, I had associated it with LGBTQ+ relationships and didn't want to appropriate a word that wasn't mine to use.

A trip to Europe late in the summer of 2021 changed everything. Nearly everyone described their other half (a phrase I don't like at all) as their partner — whether they were married or not, in straight or gay relationships.

The word was interchangeable with husband, wife, spouse, boyfriend, and girlfriend — especially among people in their 30s and older.

At that point, I enthusiastically adopted it. Since we spend half the year in France, it didn't seem odd to adopt the term, but alas, back in the US, that hasn't always been true.

Reactions to us using 'partner' have been mixed

I have found that older couples (typically ages 40 and up) in the US have had the strongest reactions to one of us introducing the other as a partner.

I can only assume this is because, for a long time, the term was primarily associated with LGBTQ+ couples who couldn't legally marry. Therefore, many people have to reconcile an older idea being applied to something they've understood in another way.

No one has ever been rude about it, but we've caught some raised eyebrows and a few "whats" or "whys" in response to the word choice. I've been asked, "Boyfriend or husband?" in response to using the word "partner," and huffed at when I repeated it instead of swapping the word for something more palatable.

But younger people seem like they couldn't care less.

My partner is my partner because, at this stage, he's my person. And that's just what works for us.

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